mood swing distroying my relationship

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Registered: 12-10-2006
mood swing distroying my relationship
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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 2:42am

I have been with my boyfriend for like 9 months and half the week I am living at his house. Everyone saids that he is not the type to cheat on me and I don't believe he will either BUT sometimes when my moods go down (i have bi polar btw) the voices tell me something else.

I am on medication for my mental illness and on birth control pills (sprintec) as well...

This is what I am like when I feel like myself:
There are these 2 girls in my dance class that told my boyfriend (probably in a flirty way) to come over to talk to them and he did. So I stayed with my group of friends and talked and laughed too. I went home fine and asked my friend online if that was disrespectful what my boyfriend did and she said no. They just as well could have been boys told them to go talk to him and not neccessairly be flirting.Then I was okay and happy after talking to her.

This is what I am like when I am in my down moods and PMSing:
My boyfriend and I are driving to school and there is a girl driving behind us with all these weird looking dolls on hanging front middle mirror, and he first asked if that was one of our friends "Eleen" but I looked back and told him it was not. And then he kept commenting on her dolls hanging on her middle mirror, and I found that odd. Then he was like, "She looks young." I then got mad and started talking about some guys in the past months who just met me and gave me their numbers to piss him off and he was not bothered at all. Then when he drove up the hill, he was like, "Hey animals!" I was like, "Don't even try to cover up checking that girl out." Then he was like, "I was not ckecking her out...she looks like a kid!" And she did but then afterwards that night I called him up and threatened, "If you ever cheat on me, I will dump you immediately."

I never been cheated on but my dad has cheated my mom with 8 different women, and in public my dad would point out to my mom a hot looking lady and say, "What a nice ass!" That I know according to my mom talking on the phone to a friend when I was 9 years old.
I am 21 now.

15 mins ago when I decided to post this, I was angry over what happened:
My boyfriend was deciding what to do on Spring Break and he asked his friend "Polly" (the girl he use to have a crush on when I was unavaible dating other guys but this girl turned him down time after time) and she said that she was going to LA with her friends, and my boyfriend told me that he wants me and him to go too.

But at this moment typing this I am thinking rationally:
I know what my responders are going to say: "At least he didnt want to go on that trip and not bring you, right??"
And he even said, "We don't have to go if you don't want to," and he decided that we can go to Nevada to visit his cousin "Amanda."

Now I am at my rational state and I want to take back that, "If you ever cheat on me" threat, but sometimes I feel I need to make that clear.

The advice I need from you ivillage users is this:

I am very jeaoulous and insecure when I am in my down mood. How do I control that and feel sane?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 7:57am

I have Bipolar also. It sounds like you definitely need an adjustment to your medication. You should not be having auditory hallucinations and having such severe and rapid mood swings if your medication is working right. I suggest that this is the very first thing that you should do to take care of these problems.

In addition, I would recommend individual counseling for you. Studies have shown that the best treatment is medication and therapy together. In your case, you really need to deal with the issue of your father's affairs. If you can't do that in a healthy way, your relationships will continue to be unhealthy and painful.

Hope this helps!








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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 12:48pm

Hi invincible_angel and welcome to the board,


I agree with the other poster that you might need to have your medication changed or readjusted. Perhaps, the birth control is having an effect on it.


I will also agree with you that when you are in your down state you are jealous and insecure. I think it is important for you to remember, though, that you can't control this. Do you bf know about you being biporal, and does he understand that is causes these mood swings?


See about getting your medication changed and going to individual counseling.


Good luck and please feel free to post on the board anytime.

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Registered: 12-10-2006
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 12:14am
Yes, he is very aware of my condition and is supportive of it.