More space or a divorce??

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Registered: 02-04-2007
More space or a divorce??
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Thu, 07-31-2008 - 6:48pm

My wife and I have been having issues...We had some ups and some downs. We are on a down and I don't know if we are going to pull out of this. The issue is I don't think my wife ever really forgives. Just adds another notch to her belt of things I did wrong. I never done anything bad, but we had fights over little things. I suspect its depression,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 11:34am
I would say that statistically most women that have already left a relationship emotionally do not come back.
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Registered: 05-11-2008
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 8:18pm

I didn't read your entire second post, it was a bit long, but hoo boy you sound like my ex, so I had to respond, and maybe I'm projecting.

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Registered: 02-04-2007
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 5:26pm

My post disappeared from last night?? Here it is again.


Yea sorry it was long, but I needed to get it all out...


Today was a better day. I have two choices. I can sulk and be hurt and try to push my point about her being unreasonable or I can be mature and take this very slowly and continue to love her like I do and try to see it from her point of view.

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Registered: 02-04-2007
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 5:45pm
Today she kissed my goodbye when I dropped her off at work?? I really hate these mixed messages.
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Registered: 03-06-2008
Fri, 08-08-2008 - 8:58pm

This woman has a lot of contempt for you, perhaps because you don't really stick up for yourself.

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Fri, 08-08-2008 - 10:51pm

<< So someone give me a pep talk and tell me this is normal. >>


Normal is relative.

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Registered: 02-04-2007
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 5:59pm

Every one of you says leave… I guess that seems to be the national decision when things go wrong in a marriage these days. I guess I’m a little old school. Should I leave? Should I stay? I fight with that question on a daily basis. So everyone’s question is why I’m taking this abuse because this woman clearly doesn’t love you anymore. I guess deep down I don’t want to admit that. I believe there is love there or she wouldn’t be “nice” to me at all. I know in my head what I wouldn’t take, such as if my wife had an affair, or if my wife started drinking and using drugs, or being physical or really verbally abusive. But overall besides my wife needing “space” and saying these hurtful things, things are ok. Not great, or else I wouldn’t be here looking for advice….


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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 11:36pm

People with manners are nice.

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Registered: 05-11-2008
Sun, 08-10-2008 - 9:19am

I am older (40s) and have been through a divorce.

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Sun, 08-10-2008 - 11:34am

<< Every one of you says leave… I guess that seems to be the national decision when things go wrong in a marriage these days. I guess I’m a little old school. Should I leave? Should I stay?