Move On or Work It Out?

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Registered: 02-10-2005
Move On or Work It Out?
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Tue, 09-27-2011 - 4:24pm

A quick run down of history - I'm 40.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2011
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 11:14pm
PLEASE TAKE IT FROM SOMEONE WHO KNOWS FIRST HAND...YOUR CHILDREN ARE NOT LYING!!! UNFORTUNATELY, WHEN WE HAVE CHILDREN THEY MUST ALWAYS COME FIRST. YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE THAT LOVES YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN...THE RIGHT WAY...THE WAY A GROWN, MORAL MAN SHOULD!

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE BE A MOM 1ST AND A WOMEN 2ND. YOU'LL BE HAPPY YOU DID.

battlingtobalance
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Registered: 06-12-2011
Fri, 09-30-2011 - 1:14am

You don't see it now but one day you are going to be held accountable to your children for the harm that you have done to them by bring that child predator in their lives. You need to get them into counseling and stop thinking so much about yourself and your twisted marriage. I used to work in a runaway shelter and it still bothers me how mothers would choose a man over their children time and time again and the kids

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 12:40am

Your life with him would have to be completely separate from your family????

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 11:31am

Please don't take this the wrong way... Your post is so disturbing, I am seriously concerned for you and your kids.

I really think you need to talk with a professional. You are in a very unhealthy place, and you are not the only victim. If there is even a question in your mind that you should "work it out" with a man who has abused your children, you can't afford NOT to find a psychologist to give you the help you really need. You and your kids (though they are close to adulthood) should not have to suffer because of the men you choose.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 11:29am

I got divorced & got remarried when my DD was 13.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 11:20am

You need to get some help for yourself!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 1:44am

This whole story is nuts.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 8:00pm
This guy who may have sexually molested your daughter or at the very least had been inappropriate with her AND you want to work it out with him? Based on only that incident, I do not know why you would do that. I think not wanting to be alone is a sucky reason to get back together with a man who is a possible pedophile. Yes, anything that he has promised does not mean much. You have stated you can never trust him around your grandkids so why even entertain the possibility?

Stop all contact. Get a divorce lawyer.

Mark
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 7:24pm

Daisyverymarried, as a mother, your children are your first priority.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 7:19pm

Daisy,

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