Moving in with bf??????
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| Mon, 08-09-2004 - 9:34am |
Well now it is almost 3 years later he is graduating from grad school in Sept. and next May I will be graduating from undergrad. This fall (sept-dec) I have a few classes and on campus housing. (My parents have made me keep my on campus apt just in case something should happen ie we break up and I need a place to live.)But come my last semester spring (jan-may) I will not have an apt.
Here is the problem. Even though I have been living here. My bf calls it "staying here" like I am a houseguest! I said are you afraid to call it what it is, living here? He says no. I offer to leave and go to my apt. if he feels we moved too fast, he says no and that he loves me and wants me here.
Ok next problem, his family does not know I am here as much as I am. I am sure they have a clue, they are not stupid, but my bf will not tell them officially that I am living here. His dad pays for alot (the apt, bills) and my bf says he does not want his dad giving him crap about playing house with his gf while he pays all the bills. I have offered to help pay, but my bf says his dad will flip if he officially says I am living here while he is still finishing up grad school and trying to find a job. Ok I understand this. I say to my bf are you sure you want me here, he says yes and that if he didn't want me here he would say so.
So I want to ask my bf if I can offically live here come Jan. By then he will be either at or looking for a job and I will be in my last semester. I asked him the other night, 'Since I will not have an apt in Jan how do you feel about me living here, I would give you $ for everything'. He just semi closed his eyes and said, that is a long way away, we will think about it later. But it is not a long way away, if I will not be here I need to start finding roomies and an apt! I tried to explain this, but he doesn't say anything. I know this is going to tie in with'the talk'. We have been together for 3 years and he says he wants me in his life, but how do I know this is not all talk????? I just want to know where this is going. I need to find out about all this, but how do I bring it up again and get him to talk?
What do you guys think....be honest....

I personally think that you will not use that apt, he will change his mind and "accept" you in his apt. But maybe if you start looking for an apt your boyfriend will understand how important this is for you.
Any way, best wishes and I hope everything goes well.