Is my 4yr relationship kaput?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2005
Is my 4yr relationship kaput?
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Sun, 06-08-2008 - 12:20am

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. He recently recieved a promotion that required him to move 2 hours away. I had been living with him for almost our whole relationship and he expected me to move without any hesitation. Yet I have never ever ever had any desire to move. My whole family is here

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-07-2008
Sun, 06-08-2008 - 5:47am

Dear girl torn 2 pieces,

You must take responsibility of your life, your feelings and your decisions.
I guess you are in your late teens, and this explains your inability to fight in the new environment of your boyfriend.

He seems like a responsible person, who knows what he wants and what he does.
Remember that we must be self-sufficient in order to be loveable and keep our love respect and passion alive.

It's nice to have a great family. However, your guy is your ALTER EGO, not your parents or friends. You should head towards making a life with him, and some day with your kid(s).
Family comes next!

So, If you love him, try to get a job, ANY JOB, and support him emotionally and practically. Please stop being an emotional or financial burden to him, in order to keep this gentle, hard working man.

(Sorry dear, I tried to be helpful and sincere, not so pleasant)

xxx