my bf doesn't tell me that he loves me
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my bf doesn't tell me that he loves me
| Sat, 04-26-2008 - 3:58pm |
my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 years. we've had our problems in the past but managed to get through them (at least that's what i think). he never tells me that he loves me, unless i say it first. and when i confronted him about it he said that he doesn't need to because i know that he loves me!! even if i know (which i don't), i still want him to tell me. is that wrong?

"i still want him to tell me. is that wrong? "
No, it is not wrong at all.
No that is not wrong..if that is what you want to hear.....but you need to realize those words are just words UNLESS actions back them up. Just because he doesn't say them doesn't mean he doesn't love you.....doesn't mean he is wrong if he doesn't say them, just the way he is.
Talk to him... Don't confront...that will put someone on the defensive very quickly. Communicate with him in a mature, rational way and be open to what he has to say and see if you can come to a understanding and compromise...BUT you have been with him for 8 years it hasn't changed by now don't expect it to change any time soon if ever. You supposedly fell in love with him the way he is, but now you want to change him, that will be impossible unless he is willing to change. Try to come to a compromise and if you can't then it is your choice to either accept him as is or leave and find someone that will say those words to you....Again they are just words unless actions back them up.
Welcome to the board sophiasophia2008,
Read the book Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, to him or with him.