is my bf embarrassed of me?
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is my bf embarrassed of me?
| Mon, 08-16-2004 - 3:48pm |
my boyfriend and I have been going out for over 7 months. at the beginning of our relationship, he told me that he is against PDA. and so he would drop my hand when people walked by or take his arm from around me in movie theatres, etc. and just the other day, we were taking his little sisters out to the movies and some random guy asked if we were an item and he said no in a way that made me think he was joking but didn't want anyone to know it was a joke. i confronted him on the issue the next day and he claims to be embarrassed to have a girlfriend and that he did this with his other girlfriend and that he doesn't blame me for being upset. my question is, how to i break him of this embarrassment? is this some type of insecure thing that he has to get over? he's 22! and i'm only his second girlfriend. the other gf lasted for a very short time (like a month). please, i need help. i just want to hold his hand when we walk down the street!

If hes unconfident: Try to negotiate with him... say "I'll try to do this ... if you hold my hand while we walk to the store" or something like that. Start off small. It sounds like he could be unconfident about himself, judging by the amounts of relationships hes been in at his age. Try to convince him about how some PDA is okay.. like holding hands, or having his arm around you...and tell him how you feel about PDA. Try to help him accept that its not a big deal, people dont mind. Another thing I would suggest doing, if you try to do all of this but he still doesnt budge... tell him that it really bothers you and maybe you can't be with him until he tries to show you some affection, and not lie about him dating you. Maybe if you really mean a lot to him he will try to get over his fear of PDA.