my bf ex wife doesn't want me around

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Registered: 10-31-2008
my bf ex wife doesn't want me around
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Fri, 11-07-2008 - 6:39pm
So love these message boards, great advice and ideas here:)

 

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Registered: 09-02-2005
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 7:14pm

Personally I'd bow out.


Its not about what you or your partner or his ex wants - its about the kid.

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 7:21pm

I agree with Goldie (previous poster) ... however, I also think that ... if he hasn't yet told her she's being ridiculous that its HIGH TIME he does!

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 3:16pm

Always do what is best for the son. His mom seems to be unreasonable and you can't change that. You can only make mature decisions.


Have a separate celebration for him in your house.

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Registered: 02-26-2005
Mon, 11-10-2008 - 9:37pm

It is not your son anyways. Just give him a surprise gift that will draw attention and will appreciate and remember you.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-12-2008 - 12:16pm

This is a delicate situation. I can certainly understand that you would like to be there for his graduation, and also how much he feels in the middle here. It would be nice if he could work it out with his ex, so that both of you could participate in important days. However, if he cannot, I would not let this be something to disturb your relationship. Remember, the day belongs to his child. It is most important that the child's mother and father be there. If bringing along a partner will upset one parent so much, then perhaps it's better for you to bow out of the day, allow the child to have both his parents there - and then plan another celebration for him with his father and you. This is gracious on your part, helps heal the upset and allows the focus to remain where it should - with the child who's graduating.


Best wishes,