my bf wants to stay friends with his ex

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Registered: 09-17-2006
my bf wants to stay friends with his ex
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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 7:54pm
WHAT IF YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND WHO YOU LOVE AND HE LOVES YOU , BUT YOU THINK HE LIKES AN EX GIRLFRIEND AS WELL AS YOU? IS IT RIGHT FOR HIM TO BE BEST FRIENDS WITH HER, ESPECIALLY IF THEY WERE TOGETHER/MARRIED FOR 9 YEARS AND THEY DONT HAVE KIDS? IS IT RIGHT THAT HE KEEPS PICS OF HER IN HER BATHING SUIT BECAUSE THEY ARE JUST FRIENDS? AND IS IT RIGHT THAT SHE USED TO (NOT SINCE WEVE BEEN TOGETHER) SEND HIM PICS OF HERSELF IN BATHING SUITS AND NOBODY ELSE WAS IN THE PICTURE. SHES BEEN DOING THIS FOR 3 YEARS. AND SHES BEEN REMARRIED FOR 3 YEARS. HER HUSBAND HAS NO PROBLEMS WITH THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sat, 05-19-2007 - 8:00pm

This isn't a case of right or wrong. Rather, it's difference of opinion.

While it's obviously right for him and his ex and her husband, you have a different opinon.

In short, if his ideals are not shared by you, move on and find someone who is more suited to what you're seeking.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 05-19-2007 - 10:26pm

Welcome to the board beciology,


I agree with the last post.

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Sat, 05-19-2007 - 11:18pm
You should be his best friend and most people are not going to want their BF getting pictures of his ex in a bathing suit - that's just weird. There's still sexual energy between them and just because her husband is okay with it doesn't mean you have to be. Read any book on relationships - when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex when you already have a primary relationship there are boundaries that need to be respected.