My BF wont stop texting other women

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Registered: 01-18-2012
My BF wont stop texting other women
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Wed, 01-18-2012 - 11:44am

I have been in a relationship for over a year. My BF and I met over the internet and after 8 months of having an amazing and loving long distance relationship he decided to transfer to be with me. He has been living with me for 8 months and during these 8 months of living under the same roof I have caught him texting and emailing other women. He says that he gets texts from them out of the blue and responds to them and the conversation is never sexual because they are just old friends and co workers. He says that all his friends are women because he's always gotten along better with females then males. He has really no male friends. Yet he accuses me of texting and emailing other men...which I don't do because I respect him and he is a very jealous man, so I avoid any contact with other men to keep the peace. He's so jealous that even if I talk to a male cashier he makes me feel like I just cheated on him.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 11:54am

I think you should tell him to move out as soon as possible, considering that he has a child to think of and you can't just throw a kid out on the street--it's up to him whether he transfers back or stays in your area, but you should end the relationship.

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Registered: 01-18-2012
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 12:07pm
Thank you for your reply, I really do appreciate it. Everything you've said is everything I've been feeling. It's just hard to face the reality of it all...It's hard to let go of the love I have for him :(
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Registered: 10-17-2010
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 12:14pm

Definitely ask him to move , you deserve musch better than that. He does not respect you at all and maybe he is just texting now but I have no doubt in my mind that it would eventually turn into physical cheating. I know it is hard but it's not too late, it's never too late and you will be ok. Yes you will miss him but there is someone out there who will treat you with respect and love that you deserve.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 12:47pm

Wow! You need a better boyfriend. Great relationships make us feel free, they don't impose limits. you are with a very limiting, hypocritical man and I'm sure you love him but that doesn't mean he is a great man. Great men don't act like this, you are a loving and gracious person who has a lot to offer, and you deserve a lot better than to be treated like a criminal by a man who is attempting to make you into the bad guy for his transgressions. He will never "come to his senses" because he has no reason to. If you stay in a relationship with him, why should he change?

Very few people stay with the only person they have felt "head over heels" for. Most of us will have to make the difficult decision to end relationships with people we love because they are not good for us.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 1:17pm

(((go2robinsnest)))

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 5:13pm
I would not buy the line about "just playing head games with her" for a nanosecond if I were you. He's lying and trying to cover his butt by saying that.
I think if he was 8 hours away from you he'd cheat in a hot minute. This man needs constant attention and validation from other women to boost his weak male ego. He knows what he is doing is upsetting you and he could care less. And he also knows it's wrong. Why else would he forbid YOU to do it? Sorry but he's a cheater and I would dump him ASAP if I were you.
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 5:35pm

Also why on EARTH would someone want a man who found it enjoyable to "play head games" with anyone..... Just incredible

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 5:52pm
The women he is texting is not the only woman he is playing headgames with. He is manipulating you as well.

Its time for him to move out.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 6:42pm
Yep. That's another reason this guy is a loser.
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 12:05am

You don't know if you can ever trust him again?

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