my b/f's dangerous driving scares me
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my b/f's dangerous driving scares me
| Mon, 05-31-2004 - 2:28pm |
My b/f owns a Mustang which he likes to drive fast and occasionally road race against his friends. About 2 weeks ago he engaged in a short race down the highway with his friend who also has the same kind of car. I was in the passenger seat and I was scared to death. There were other cars on the road and we could have easily gotten into an accident. I was so upset and scared and I told him he has no regard for my life since he puts it in danger without a second thought. So he said he'd never do that again with me in the car. This past weekend we went on a day trip 2 hours away. We were driving in his car, I was the passenger, and his friend was driving in his own car (he also drives a Mustang). They kept passing people at reasonable speeds except for one time his friend went way too fast and my b/f decided to do the same. There was also another car on the road that was trying to race us and so they were both showing off and keeping ahead of this other driver. I was so scared and said so. We were going at least 160km/hr on a 2 lane highway. He often does more than that when I'm not around because he tells me stories about how he races other cars on the roads. I'm really scared he'll kill himself or both of us and I tried to explain that he's putting my life (and his own) at risk without giving me any choice in the matter. After this past weekend he said he'd never do it again with me in the car but he said that exact same thing 2 weekends ago.
If something happens to one or both of us because of a car crash that could have been prevented then we'll never have a chance to have a life together. It scares me and upsets me that he could risk everything without thinking about the consequences. I explained to him how I feel and that I don't want to lose him. I don't think he realizes how dangerous his driving is.
How do I get him to understand that he's putting both our lives at risk and our future? Is there any compromise or is this a right/wrong issue?

This is a no-brainer.
You simply REFUSE to ride with him in the mustang. No arguments, excuses or additional comments are necessary on your part.
Your B/F made you one promise not to speed and he broke it.
What's even more disrespectful is HIS ATTITUDE! You've made it clear to him that the speeding bothers you...and you fear for his and your own safety....but that doesn't seem to bother HIM?
Ask yourself this, please?
If the 2 of you eventually got married, would you want to put your life in jeopardy every single day? Would you really be happy being married to a man whose disrepectful driving habits could eventually kill...or at the very least...scare the hell out of you???
Pianoguy