My boyfriend of 6 yrs cheated on me d...
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| Thu, 04-12-2007 - 9:21am |
My boyfriend of 6 yrs cheated on me do i keep him ?
yes
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I didn't vote because I don't see the answer as being particularly black or white....yes or no.
I'd be looking at the bigger picture of the relationship. Was the relationship generally a good, happy one with this single blip on the radar? Or was it full of "ups and downs", poor communication and disagreements?
If it was the former, I'd be likely to hang on. But on the proviso that he does some serious self analysis on why he cheated and both of you should put steps in place to ensure it doesn't happen again. Based on personal experience, I tend to believe that cheating can be one's way of seeking something that one isn't getting in the relationship. Yes, I know, communication should be the answer to the problem...but not all of us think clearly 100% of the time. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. And if he can't figure out why he did it, individual counselling for him may be a good start.
If it was the latter and your relationship was not a good one, then I'd take this as a sign that it's time to move on. Too often I read posts where writers say "we have our ups and downs like all relationships..." but the thing is, good relationships don't have lots of ups and downs. It's like the writers are trying to kid themselves that a rollercoaster relationship is normal.