My boyfriend and I get hit on

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Registered: 05-04-2004
My boyfriend and I get hit on
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Tue, 05-18-2004 - 3:13pm
My boyfriend and I are both good looking. I am not trying to be vain! We both get hit on a lot, together and apart. My night job is bouncer at a bar, and sometimes he comes and sits with me and sees men hitting on me. They do it right in front of him, knowing we're together. I don't tell him about the ones that he doesn't see because I fight them off just like I would if he were there. I see people hitting on him, sometimes, but he makes a point of telling me every time it happens even when I am not there to see it. Now, he tells me that girls are asking him out. At first I used to say, "Of course you get hit on. You're hot!" I am not a jealous person, but this is getting annoying to me because it seems like a competition. It's like he's saying, "I'm just as hot as you are, if not hotter." Do you think he is jealous of the attention that I get? Does he need an ego boost or something? Could he be making this up or exaggerating to be competitive, or because he wants my attention? What is he trying to tell me? If I try to bring this up, I am afraid he will dismiss me as being jealous. I am truly not threatened by other women. If he wanted to be with someone else, I know he would break up with me before he did anything. And frankly, that would not be the end of my world even though he is a great guy. I just don't want to keep this inside because it's bugging me, and I need to know how to approach him about it so he doesn't get all freaked out.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 5:40pm
::but he makes a point of telling me every time it happens even when I am not there to see it

Next time stay something like - 'it feels good doesn't it, but I'm not sure why I need to know....' and see if he says anything back.


Carrie