My Boyfriend Broke Up with Me

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Registered: 01-12-2007
My Boyfriend Broke Up with Me
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Thu, 03-20-2008 - 1:19pm

First, I want to apologize for the lengthy summary.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 2:03pm

Welcome to the board Nicole,


Since you feel so strongly about this, I think you should go ahead to talk to him about what you are thinking and feeling. If nothing else and for some reason things don't work out, at least you will have gotten to speak with him about this and you won't be left wondering "what if".


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:27pm
I find it odd that he would break up with you because of a 50% chance he'll have to relocate to France. If that was the real reason, wouldn't he do that only if he was 100% or even 95% sure he was leaving? I don't blame you for wanting to know more about the reason for his wanting to break up, but
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Registered: 12-19-2007
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 4:47pm

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 5:52pm

Hey Nicole. I'm sorry about what happened. I don't know how long you and this guy had been dating but it had to come as a shock to you and I know that hurts.

If you have to have this conversation, then read z-money's post over again. You're trying to learn his thoughts, his feelings. Don't let yours get in the way. Don't try to convince him of anything. Just let him talk, and make the goal of the conversation to be for you to come to terms with whatever he says and find acceptance in that.

It sounds as though he's trying to remain happy about this and not bring either of you down too much, so maybe it's the lack of negative feelings that is making you feel confused. Either way he did say he was unhappy in this relationship and wanted to leave it so whatever happens that's the bottom line. Sorry again.

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Registered: 06-16-2007
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 1:58am

Hey Nicole, sorry to hear you're going through such a painful time.


I agree with the other posters who say if you do have the conversation about his "true" reasons for leaving the relationship, I hope you can do so in a way that makes it clear to him you need to know for the sake of closure, and not for the sake of reinstating the relationship the way it was before.