My boyfriend doesnt trust me
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My boyfriend doesnt trust me
| Sat, 10-20-2007 - 11:59am |
Hi, I'm a freshman in college - and like all of my friends I do go to parties. My boyfriend who took ayear off to work is at home. I'm only an hour away but I do dorm here. Everything is okay except for the fact that my boyfriend doesnt like when I go out to parties. He says that they're bad news and doesnt trust them. He thinks I'm goign to get really drunk one night and cheat on him like his ex girfriend did. WE've been dating for 10 months now and I dont drink a lot to begin with and have never ever given him a reason not to trust me. Now hes talking about maybe we should go on a break because if we end on good terms now he won't hate me if I end up cheating on him down the road. THis is RIDICULOUS. I love him so much and he loves me but hes talking crazy. I would never cheat on him. I don't know what to say to him

I think you're understanding why most college relationships like these don't work out. He can't handle a girlfriend who is in college without him - it's nothing personal against you, he's just not very trusting and it could be that he was cheated on in the past, but he's asking you for a break because of his own insecurities. You can't say anything to make him feel differently. To be honest, you could stop partying and drinking altogether and he'd still find something to hold over your head.
If you're wise you'll end it now. You just started college, do you really think you can go through four years of him acting like this? If he couldn't go two months without dangling the word "break" over your head, what future does this relationship really have?
I think if you stay with him you'll be postponing the inevitable and putting your life on hold for someone who isn't right.
Agreed. This is doomed to fail. If he doesn't trust you and you haven't given him a reason, then he has issues that you can't do anything about.
Everyone in college knows/knew someone with a boyfriend like this. She couldn't ever go out because she was waiting in the dorm for him to call, so they could argue about his insecurities and what he thought was *really* going on.
You'll look back in 5 years and be really mad that you wasted your college years doing what he demanded of you, instead of having fun looking for the right guy. If he was the right guy, you wouldn't be unhappy. He would find a way to come up and visit on the weekends and go to parties with you instead of making you stay away and be unhappy like him.
Welcome to the board dee288,
::He thinks I'm goign to get really drunk one night and cheat on him like his ex girfriend did.
That pretty much says it all.