IS MY BOYFRIEND GAY????
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IS MY BOYFRIEND GAY????
| Wed, 08-11-2004 - 2:41am |
HELLO,
My name is Jessica. I have something on my mind and I was hoping you could help me. I have been dating a guy named Luis for 2 months now. He is a friend of my cousin. I met him at church and we started dating 3 weeks after meeting. Three days ago Luis and I were having a conversation about each others growing up. We started revealing secrets to eachother about ourselves that we hadn't told anyone before. It was his turn and what he told me shocked me a lot. He is 23 years old, but from the ages 10 through 15 he told me that he had been with 4 other guys. I had asked him to clearify "been with". He told me that he had oral sex with these guys. I did not know what to say. He told me that he had been with one guy @ the age of ten, then once @ 12 and the last two @15 yrs old. He has been with other women and was even married before @ the age of 20, but got a divorce 3 months later. I would have never guessed that he had been with guys because he is very manly looking. He has told me that ever since 15, he has never even thought about a man in that way. i had asked him if he had ever had intercourse with a man. Luis said that he tried but the other guys penis would not fit into his anus. Sorry for being graphic.
MY QUESTION IS: HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO FEEL ABOUT ALL OF THIS? Should l break up with him. I love him and he loves me. Before I found out about this information, I was thininking about marriage and having children with him. But now, I am not so sure. I don't want to be mean and judge him because my past isn't so innocent either. I mean, I am a virgin but I have kissed another girl and stuff. I am not sure though about this whole guy situation. I asked him if he has had any recent feeling/ desires towards men and he said no. He said that he loves me and want to be with no else but me. My fear is that we get married and have children and then years down the road he leave me for another man. Should i be concerned? He is a good man and he is a talented musician at his church. We are both christians. I just don't know how i should be handleling this news. Can you please give me some insight on this problem. I greatly appreciate it.
Thank you,
Jessica
My name is Jessica. I have something on my mind and I was hoping you could help me. I have been dating a guy named Luis for 2 months now. He is a friend of my cousin. I met him at church and we started dating 3 weeks after meeting. Three days ago Luis and I were having a conversation about each others growing up. We started revealing secrets to eachother about ourselves that we hadn't told anyone before. It was his turn and what he told me shocked me a lot. He is 23 years old, but from the ages 10 through 15 he told me that he had been with 4 other guys. I had asked him to clearify "been with". He told me that he had oral sex with these guys. I did not know what to say. He told me that he had been with one guy @ the age of ten, then once @ 12 and the last two @15 yrs old. He has been with other women and was even married before @ the age of 20, but got a divorce 3 months later. I would have never guessed that he had been with guys because he is very manly looking. He has told me that ever since 15, he has never even thought about a man in that way. i had asked him if he had ever had intercourse with a man. Luis said that he tried but the other guys penis would not fit into his anus. Sorry for being graphic.
MY QUESTION IS: HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO FEEL ABOUT ALL OF THIS? Should l break up with him. I love him and he loves me. Before I found out about this information, I was thininking about marriage and having children with him. But now, I am not so sure. I don't want to be mean and judge him because my past isn't so innocent either. I mean, I am a virgin but I have kissed another girl and stuff. I am not sure though about this whole guy situation. I asked him if he has had any recent feeling/ desires towards men and he said no. He said that he loves me and want to be with no else but me. My fear is that we get married and have children and then years down the road he leave me for another man. Should i be concerned? He is a good man and he is a talented musician at his church. We are both christians. I just don't know how i should be handleling this news. Can you please give me some insight on this problem. I greatly appreciate it.
Thank you,
Jessica
