My boyfriend's big lie
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|Sun, 01-29-2012 - 12:50am|
I really need some advice, I hope someone can help me out, please...I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's a big part of my daughter's (from a previous relationship) life, we have so many good memories, our lives are just so intertwined. But he's been really miserable and angry a lot, and it's hard on me...he gets mad seemingly for no reason, and just doesn't always put in as much of an effort as he should if he really sees his future with me.
I found out that he's actually lied to me about something quite big. He told me he was taking a certain program in school, made up all sorts of details about it, and I found out on my own that it wasn't the case--3 years later. He didn't get in, and was too full of pride to admit it to me. I don't know how I could ever trust him again. How can you keep up such a big lie with someone who is supposed to be your partner?
I realize now he's been depressed over not getting into the program and feeling like he doesn't know where his life is headed, and my thought is I need to let him go and figure out what he wants. It seems the added pressure of a serious relationship is making him miserable, even if unintentionally. But I want to know, do you think you can figure out things like this as a couple, or is it really best to know yourself and what you want out of life before you start to plan your life with someone else?