My boyfriends ex wont move out

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Registered: 09-17-2011
My boyfriends ex wont move out
Tue, 12-20-2011 - 9:47pm

I need help.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 12-21-2011 - 12:02am

If he wanted her to be gone, she would be gone.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Wed, 12-21-2011 - 12:32am

She moved in without him asking?

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Registered: 12-03-2009
Wed, 12-21-2011 - 8:31am
If he wanted her to be out, she would be out. Don't you think it is a very strange coincidence he broke up with you just when his roomate moved all her stuff back ? Sorry but he is not in love with either one of you, he is playing BOTH of you ! Time to dump him - and find a friend who has more judgement when it comes to men and relationships.
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 12-21-2011 - 9:20am

I'm sorry to sound harsh, but have you ever considered finding someone who has better judgment? Who doesn't rush into love (he loves you "and always will" after what, two and a half months? seriously?)

He is absolutely right, he can't give you what you need. I know you dont' want to look at it this way because you have strong feelings for him, but you are dodging a bullet by being broken up with.

You're not meant to be together. Being in love with someone doesn't entitle you to a relationship with them for the rest of your life, nor does it mean that a relationship with them will be a good one. Start thinking with your brain, and put your emotions aside. You really need to be more realistic about the situation you are in. Being heartbroken is sometimes preventable. When I read your post, I am reading the words of a girl who is making herself a slave to love instead of treating herself with respect.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 12-21-2011 - 11:12am

It doesn't really make sense to me that he would have to "take a break" from dating you just because a rommate that he supposedly doesn't want living in his place moved back in.