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My boyfriends friends love strippers
| Fri, 02-20-2004 - 11:02am |
I am generally a really cool girlfriend, not keeping a tight leash and all, but there is one thing that makes me so mad I feel like I can suddenly become a crazy person when this is mentioned. My boyfriend has a group of about 10 single friends and every now and again they get a private stripper. Now, I don't mind him ever going to a strip CLUB, he hasn't gone to one since I have been dating him (a year), except when we went with a group of people late, after we left a bar, but he's been to two parties in a year where they have a girl come to someone's house and they do bad things to her. He's so honest and I trust him, because he shows me the pictures they take and tells me all the dirty details - and he never gets near her - but it INFURIATES ME!!! Why are his friends so dirty that they do really gross things to these girls and all stand around watching and such - its so gross!!! I don't understand why he goes but he says its to hang out with his friends and that he finds it funny. I tell him how much it bothers me, and he says he won't go next time, but I don't want to tell him he can't do something. Does anyone understand my problem??

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I would give my right arm for that!!! Honesty and trust are key in a relationship and it sounds like you have both! Keeper... especially if he says that he wont go again because you have a problem with it...
Tiffany
I think I may have misunderstood the original post. I just assumed she was giving lapdances and stuff. Are these guys or any of these girls getting like.. 'sexually satisfied' at these parties??
Edited 2/20/2004 2:02:55 PM ET by jap524
Tiffany
Hey there! I completely understand where your coming from. I used to be soooooo jealous of strip clubs, pornographic pictures, waitresses, etc. I never really understood why because I happen to find myself to be a very attractive person on the inside and out. Until one day it came to me...the guys that I had been dating had all done things to break my trust when it came to other women and therefore I reacted with burning jealousy. I met my ex fiancee and all of that changed. He was a looker, liked to look at women, go to strip clubs, and watch and look at porn but he was NEVER sneaky about it. That's where everything changed. I think it's great that your guy tells you that a stripper is going to be in attendance before his venturing out. Imagine how enraged you would be if you found out he had been to a party with a stripper but didn't tell you first? A lot of guys wont! However, there's a fine line he should be careful not to cross...if these parties become more and more frequent then he should opt out if he knows how much it eats at you. That's just a respect issue. Hey, have you and the girls ever thought about having a little swaray yourselves and possibly hiring a hot stud to make you ladies swoon? Maybe you should consider it. What it boils down to is trust. I think that if he's open about it and tells you whats going on and doesn't keep you in the dark your in a positive spot. But, he does need to be sensitive to your feelings in the same regard.
Tiffany
My sister married one of these guys... As a matter of fact, his brother is the same way. That's just the way they were raised. They wouldn't be caught dead in a stripclub. My brother-in-law went to a baseball game with friends and drank some beers for his bachelor party. Just because you've never met such a man, doesn't mean he doesn't exist.
In regards to your last post, please keep in mind that when you post on a message board, you will get a wide range of opinions and it's possible that you will not agree with some of them. That's why their 'opinions'. Take from them what you wish.
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Pam
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