My emotions are getting in the way

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Registered: 03-28-2003
My emotions are getting in the way
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Fri, 04-20-2007 - 10:49pm

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months (we live together as well) about a month and a half ago I broke up with him because at the time I didn't think he was what I wanted and I was wrong. It was a long emotionally draining month that we were apart and we decided to get back together. While we were apart he was casually seeing a girl from work. I found out after we got back together that he had sex with her. Finding this out hurt like nothing I've ever felt. I couldnt blame him or anything after all we were apart.
Were back together now and I'm finding that I am so over emotional about everything! Sometimes its very overwhelming. I love him to pieces. I know part of it is becuase I'm so scared that I'm going to lose him. Not only am I emotional but I find that I'm wanting to question just about everything that he does when I'm not with him. I know thats not cool and not okay but sometimes it seems like thats the only way I can get rid of the anxiety. He's just started a new job and found out today that he's going to have Fri and Sat off, I already feel anxiety ridden over that becaue thats one less day I'm going to get to spend the entire day with him.
I thought that maybe it was just hormones so I got on the pill and here I am a week into it and still feel the same way, I'm going to take the next step and talk to my dr about this because if it keeps up I know I'm going to push him away.

If anyone have any suggestions or advice I would beyond appriciate it before I end up ruining my relationship.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 1:33pm

Hi sassy_girl54 and welcome to the board,


You are going to have to get control over your emotions.

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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 4:50pm

Sassy_girl54,


It seems like right now you are making him the focus of your life. When you should be focusing on yourself not him. When a person isn't happy with themselves they can't be truly happy in a relationship either.


Perhaps you could start individual counseling to help you get control over your emotions.


Good luck to you.


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Registered: 07-19-2004
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 12:36pm
Hi,
I'm normally no good at giving advice, but had to this time cause I'm surprised no one else mentioned that you just started a new pill......for the first 3 months on a new pill your emotions can be all over the place. I've switched my pill 3 times because sometimes after 3 months I would still feel horribly emotional, and sometimes it caused other symptoms. Finally I found one that worked for me. Every different pill affects each person differently. If you see no change after a while maybe talk to your doc about switching your pill.

 

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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 1:17pm
Good eye :o) Actually I haven't been on the pill for well over a year, there's no need because he has had a vasectomy. I decided this month to get on the pill to see if it would help curb my emotions some, if this month is worse then last I'll just stop taking it and head to the Dr. But so far everything has been pretty okay. I just need to relax about it.