Is my ex just seriously confused?

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Registered: 08-05-2003
Is my ex just seriously confused?
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Tue, 06-01-2004 - 7:20pm
My ex broke up with me about 2 months ago after she felt like I was being dishonest with her. Additionally, she felt that I never really courted her or went out of my way to really focus my attention on her. In some respects she is right, but I felt I put in some good effort. I lied to her a few times (about small stuff) and admitted it to her.

After telling me she never wanted to speak to me, she finally contacted me a few weeks ago and asked me to meet her for drinks. We went out last week and had a nice time. Then she called me again a few more times last week and we went out to dinner on Friday night. She wanted to do something this weekend but I was busy so I politely declined.

During our dinner on Friday I could tell that there is still considerable chemistry between us. She was very complimentary towards me and was touching me. When the night was over, she gave me a very long and intimate hug and a long kiss.

Unfortunately this has just confused me, so I have decided to back off. I feel she is just confused about what she wants. I believe that part of her wants to be with me and another is not so sure.

I am thinking about just maintaining NC with her untill she calls me to make things happen. Is this the best approach or should I contact her now?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 10:39pm
You two didn't talk last week about why she contacted you, and why you are seeing each other again and what each of you wants now?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 12:05pm
ejirardo...

NO CONTACT is definitely the way for you to go...UNLESS...you want to give her the impression that you wish to reignite the relationship the 2 of you had earlier.

Is this what you want?

Or are you comfortable to keep everything the way it is now...which is strictly on a friendship basis?

It's obvious that (for whatever reason)...your EX wants to reignite the flame between you? So if you don't want to strike the match...keep the 'social sparks' between you to a minimum, okay? Just remember...if she can freak out once...the same thing could happen again?

Pianoguy