my family or my boyfriend???

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Registered: 01-04-2008
my family or my boyfriend???
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Fri, 01-04-2008 - 12:27pm
hi. I am desperate for some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now and have lived together for 2 years. We have recently given the house up due to the contract ending and us spliting up. He is the most caring boyfriend ive ever had and always buy's me things and helps me out money wise if im stuck and as always been there for me. He dont like goin out with his mates partying as he dont drink and he much prefer's staying in with me or going for a meal or something like that. But one week me
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 01-04-2008 - 1:27pm

Welcome to the board char_pink,


Do you think your parents would really want nothing to do with you if you could make together with him?


Honestly though, if you do want to get back together I think you need to take things slowly. You went through a lot of drama at the end of your relationship and it is going to talk time to get over of all that.

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Registered: 01-04-2008
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 5:39am
hi thanks for the reply. I have been seeing my ex
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 11:22am

Your parents don't think he's good for you because you went to them in tears and told them the whole story.

One thing I've learned is that if you don't want your parents to think well of a boyfriend for a long time, DON'T RANT TO THEM ABOUT HIM! They want the best for you and they saw you really hurt over him. Parents want to see their kids with someone who is deserving of them, and in that instance, they saw someone who was not deserving of you.

Definitely take it slowly if you really want to get back together. But if he keeps pulling things like going out, getting drunk and hanging out in a car with other girls, then you need to decide how much of this you really want to go through to get back together.

If you are serious about this guy then you need to stop chasing him, he knows how you feel and if he really wants you then he'll stick by you.

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Registered: 01-04-2008
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 11:48am

hi thanks for your advice. I know that is the worse thing ive ever done but at the time they were the only people who I had. Couldnt cope on my own. But have defenatly learned by this and I try not to tell my parents alot now.


He is not interested in hanging round with his mates or drinking escpecially after that night and I dont think he'l go in a car with another girl again because he had realized what he had lost as I was the only person who was there for him as his family wernt close to him and I stood by him and put up with alot from his ex but still stuck by him when I should have ran a mile!!


I have asked him to go out with the boys one night or go and see his mates but he wont he'd prefer to spend the time with me. When he's back here not in reading he always wants to came and see me on my lunch break. So taking in everything I really think He loves me and He is sorry for hurtin me and said it

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 12:19pm

Do you live with your parents?

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Registered: 01-04-2008
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 2:10pm
hi thanks for the advice, Ye unfortunatly I am back living with my parents its the worst thing ive ever done is move back in.!! I am 19 and they are watchin everythink i do and want to know where i go every night.. I hate it my mother even followd me one night as she didnt believe me that i was goin to see me mate. I have told my mother that we are friends cause i dont want to argue with him. But i like to go places wth him like for e.g cinema, go for a nice meal but im scared incase they see me. I went to cinema with him last night and one of my sisters friends seen me down there with him and went back and told my sister, but i told her i wasnt down there. dont wont to lie anymore!!! I have 2 younger brothers and 1 younger sister and they hate him 2. They are goin be really angry when they find out.