my friends x is coming on to me?
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| Sat, 06-05-2004 - 2:49pm |
i just want to know if she's up to no good. is she gonna use me?
just last weekend i took her for a ride on my harley. she met some of my other friends who are also friends of her x. they all know him and her were together. this is just sounding funny to me. she mentioned that she likes sportbikes more than harleys. her x boyfriend has a sportbike
now her x has his life together. he has a good job with 3 cars and a sportbike. he has his own place, and many women want him. He has the players qualities. he's one of those tall, dark handsome guys and well built and is going to compete for the mens fitness/health covermodel guy. Im not that good looking of a guy and i still live with my parents. he's 28, she's 26 and im 26
they were together for a year, and they looked good together. he treated her well till he dumped her. Just wondering why she would actually settle for a guy who's not up to par with her x?
is she tryin to use me?
is she serious bout me?
Edited 6/5/2004 2:53 pm ET ET by alpha_male

How do you know this?
Does he have problems with you dating her? If not, what is the problem? Are you often nervous about girls who are interested in you and paranoid about what they are up to?
Who knows why they broke up. Maybe is is not about how good they looked together or what kind of car he drove but about their conflicting personalities, or the fact that they had little in common or who knows.
Besides, if he dumped her why does she have to be up to no good?
Why not just date her and find out for yourself. Go slowly and communicate to her. Ask her what she sees in you.
Edited 6/5/2004 4:07 pm ET ET by ciao_gina
He hasnt said anything about me and her talking. He just says whats up to me,and continues to work out. I feel he might beat me down, but he shows no pain from what i see.
Its just funny to see her pick a guy who's a friend of her x, and flirt and hangout with all of a sudden. Right in front of the x. Makes me uncomfortable
Ahhhh...info that might have been helpful in your first port. ;)
Well if she outright flirts with you to make him jealous and has cheated on her boyfriend then she might be bad news.
I agree and think this girl has herself as her only thought at the moment from how it seems. If nothing else, I would give them both a while to heal and I would definitely talk to HIM about this and clear the air on both parts.
People who cheat are often known to use the "I didnt but Im so misunderstood" thing. Its so innocent, etc, yet this man had been with her for quite a while and thought she had. Considering her actions now, I wouldnt be too open and giving with her for a very long time. If you take more of a calm cool attitude with her, you might just see what her true intentions are.
I would find out from the ex if he does have ANY contact with her out of the gym. (Wonder if she's mad at him and trying to get him back). What her excuses were, etc... as much as can be given. Let him know you arent very comfortable with the situation as it seems because you think you might tick him off, you dont even know if she is genuine.
Since she is readily supplying info, and it sounds a bit off, I think I would go to the guy. She has her side, he has his side and its likely that neither side is the truth, but its somewhere in the middle. Plus, if they would get over it and get back together, then you'd REALLY be talking uncomfortable.
Dont trust your heart to her until you can see she really is worth it by her actions. This guy got hurt by her whether he showed it or not, you dont want to be the next one to fall for it. Take care