My girlfriends family wont accept me
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My girlfriends family wont accept me
| Tue, 09-11-2007 - 5:52am |
Hi, my girlfriend and i have been with for just over a year we are living together and have a strong relationship, the problem is we both belive in old fashion views to need the womans farthers permision to get engaged, but unfortunatly her family have some sort of problem with me and i've got no chance on getting blessing from her dad, we both would like to get married and we just dont know what to do.
please help
Matthew

Welcome to the board Matthew,
Do either of you know why her family doesn't like you?
I also agree with the previous poster. You say you are old fashioned, but if you are okay with living together before marriage, than having her fathers permission shouldn't be that big of a deal.
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Welcome to the board twiggy198719,
What kinds of things are you trying to do to mend the relationship with her family?
hi
thanks for your replys but its not that we are old fasioned in respect to the whole relationship stages its the fact that we both want the same things in the terms to the stepsto getting married we both belive that if we follow tradition it will show how serious we are,
the prblem is i have not long ago lost my job due to medical reasons and the dont like the fact that i cant support there daughter, the other problem is that we live in england where as her parents have just moved to spain and i cant do a lot to win the respect back from them,
i used to get along with them untill i became unemployed...
Do you think if/when you get another job their view of you will change?
If not, you have to decide how important having their blessing is to you.
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It's lovely that you have strong values and care about receiving the blessing of her father, however, you have every right to know what kind of problem he has with you. It's quite possible that this problem is his, and has nothing to do with you. Unless he discusses this with you and you all try to work it out, then there is a lack of fairness in this situation. In that case, if he is unfair, or just dealing with his own personal problem, you do not have to wait and hope for a blessing from him. Ideally, it is lovely to receive this blessings, but realistically, there are some people who cannot bless or approve of anyone. Some fathers feel upset about all their daughter's relationships. As you do not know what is bothering him, it would be a shame to allow his problem to interfere with
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