My Guy is Looking At Other Girls!!
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My Guy is Looking At Other Girls!!
| Sun, 08-10-2008 - 7:53pm |
Well, not exactly, he claims he was joking and I believe him. First allow me to tell the story of what happened. Last Thursday we were coming back from the park and this woman jogger excused herself past him and he stared at her butt. Whether he was joking

How long have you been together? Have you told him how these things make you feel? And I don't mean by getting angry or cold or touchy, I mean being honest and cool-headed and telling him that it makes you feel disrespected and ignored.
It is a double standard that your man has, most people male or female understand that their partner isn't blind to attractive members of the opposite sex and it's ok to look but not gawk.
We've been together off and on for two and a half years. He's only upset that I didn't just say: I don't like that, instead I tried to explain why I didn't like that.
But when I just blatantly tell him things he do that I don't like he still does them intentionally. For example, we don't have the greatest communication so I don't always understand what he's trying to say and thus he calls me slow. I don't like that at all for the life of me, I couldn't even work that towards something I'd miss if he'd ever stop doing it. I've told him that I don't like it as he's complaining about now and he's still doing that. It hurts and he won't stop, all he does is apologizes and then justifies his actons by saying that I can be at times and that it's only his opinion.
That doesn't matter to me for one second because he's the love of my life, not my enemy. Everything hurts more when it comes from loved ones. His opinion counts because I care about him, if my boyfriend was my enemy his opinion could suck a fat one while I pray for the doucebag.
I don't want him to poke his eyes out to please me, just not stare and comment on another woman's ass while I'm on his left. Save it for
My boyfriend isn't like that, but why is it that guys should be able to gawk at other women in the presence of theirs
Welcome to the board cece1012003,
::But he got upset with me saying I was treating him like a child because I tried to explain to him why it was disrespectful instead of just telling him I don't like that.
Because it made him feel 'caught', wrong and embarrassed.
Cece, I'm going to interject with a little logic.
Hey Cece...I know EXECTLY how you feel and I agree totally! I am MARRIED to a GAWKER, though he is really trying to reform. It is a habit he fostered from the time he was 13 years old, he is now 51! In his past 5 relationships, his women were fine with the gawking, the Playboys, the strip clubs, the online porn, but that was so THEY could have the freedom to gawk at the guys and screw them too!
I made the mistake of not getting to know enough before we were married and now this is a HUGE problem in our marriage! But, we truely love each other and are working on this together, but I WILL NOT TOLERATE IT and he knows it.
I agree with Carrie, you have to decide if this is the kind of behavior you will accept from your partner.
And if communication with him doesn't change his behavior, you have a choice of whether to settle for someone who will openly disrespect you.