My hubbie doesn't want to have a sex

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Registered: 12-06-2007
My hubbie doesn't want to have a sex
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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 11:56am

Hi.


I dated my hubbie for a year before we got married which was a year ago.(so I have been with him for 2 years total) He was so enthusiastic at first, and he would want to have a sex when we hang out at my/his apt. Then after we got married and started to live together, his desire seemed to be decreased.


We would have a sex once a week for past half year, then once in 2 weeks, and now, we don't have a sex unless I ask him to have one. Even I ask him,

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Registered: 08-31-2007
Fri, 01-04-2008 - 8:19am

"I do agree with you about guys

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Registered: 08-31-2007
Fri, 01-04-2008 - 8:21am
So being married means that a guy should not try to better himself and his family's financial situation?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-04-2008 - 1:44pm

Your husband has a strong problem here and he's making it seem okay or natural, but it is not. A lack of sex drive indicates something wrong, either physically or emotionally. Your desire for sex is normal, healthy and simply part of a good, loving relationship. The fact that he keeps turning you down is not only upsetting, and can cause you feel undesirable, but it has other emotional consequences as well. If he expects you to live without sex, then this is no longer a marriage, but a friendship. (In fact, this is legally

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 1:33pm

"Living like a bachelor" means that he does whatever he wants to whenever he wants

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 1:40pm

Dear Dr.Shoahanna


Thank you for writing. I have been going to a counselor, but it all comes down to either he changes his behave or divorce. There are not much I can

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 1:52pm

If a guy gets married, he can improve himself or make his financial sitiation better, but he has to listen to what his behalf feels and take it

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 2:33pm

Supergreen, it doesn't sound as if your husband is giving any thought or concern to how you feel.

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