my husband and i don't talk anymore

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Registered: 04-19-2003
my husband and i don't talk anymore
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Sun, 05-30-2004 - 9:45pm
my husband and i have been married for almost 3 years. everything is going well, the sex is superb, socially we're very popular, but there is one MAJOR problem that i am afraid might end this relationship: we don't talk. we never have anything to talk about. it's come to a point where i feel like i don't interest him anymore and it's making me feel down because i feel unworthy is his eyes. right now my life is on hold. i am between jobs, i don't do much during the day except take care of the house and make dinner. so really most of the time i don't know what to talk about anyway. and i started hating doing stuff alone with him because of all the awkward silences. sometimes we go out to dinner and barely say a word to each other the whole outing. we've become like one of those couple whose shoes you hate to be in at restaurants!

please help.

i love this man and i don't want our relationship to end.
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Registered: 01-05-2004
Sun, 05-30-2004 - 10:00pm
Hi :)

I know this might sound like a strange question to ask about a married couple, but...do you teo have any common interests or hobbies? Maybe if you two took up a new hobby together that would be a start for some conversation. It could even be something as simple as watching the news together. Obviously you had to talk at some point in your relationship. What did you talk about then?

Hope it works out.

Ivy

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Registered: 05-31-2004
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 4:29am
My husband and I have had the same problem and what our counslor told us is that we need to find something that we both like doing ie: hiking, reading the same book, find a hobby or something. I know how you feel. I can't say we have really been doing what she said because now we have such bigger problems that now I am wondering if after 21 years is it over? Hope all works out for you 2. Holly