My Husband Is Angry With Me Because I Want Him To Use A Condom When He Uses The Medication Muse

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Registered: 06-12-2011
My Husband Is Angry With Me Because I Want Him To Use A Condom When He Uses The Medication Muse
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Sun, 06-12-2011 - 6:27pm

My husband & I have been coping with his erectile dysfunction for almost a year now, first he was taking viagra, then it stopped working and he started using a pump which he says is very painful. So now the doctor has put him on this medication called MUSE and he inserts the medication into the head of his penis.

I read up on the medication & learned it can cause vaginal burning & iching and some people can have a serious allergic reactions. I have serious allergies and am very sensitive to many substances, I even experienced stinging and discomfort from the lubrication gel he used with the pump. So I asked him to

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007

Given that the medication has a high probability of side effects for you, not it's not unreasonable for you to want him to wear a condom.

Do you wish to discuss his anger further?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2011

My husband is not often moody, he is usally in good spirits. We have even made jokes about the situation with his pump, for example we would start to get intimate and he would go in the bathroom to use his pump and by time he would get back I would be sleep and we would laugh about it. And he jokes about the pain of taking the ring off and how

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Truth is a lot of men don't like to use a condom during sex because they think it doesn't feel natural that way. It's a guy thing. Maybe what you could do is give it a try one time without a condom and see if it causes any burning or itching reaction before you decide he needs to wear a condom every time.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

I think you are right--he's sick of all the things he had to do to have sex and now he feels that you added another thing that he doesn't want to do, but I understand how you feel.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009

There are other ways of "making love" besides intercourse!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2010
Are these medications and pumps, ect, all necessary? Did your doctor bring up more natural solutions such as the supplements, or more physical exercise? Also, men with ED sometimes have emerging heart problems, which may be something to look into.... Just wondering.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009

I agree that counseling would be a good idea and I'm wondering if his ED is caused by something psychological. It almost always is. In which case, treating it with pumps and medications and everything else will only make it worse, increase anxiety, and make sex far less pleasurable for the BOTH of you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004

"Maybe what you could do is give it a try one time without a condom and see if it causes any burning or itching reaction before you decide he needs to wear a condom every time. "

I would agree with this, except the OP has good reason to anticipate an allegic reaction: she has had serious allergic reactions before.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2011

Frankly, I just don't want to have that medicine excreted into my body. I try not to take medicines and prefer natural remedies. I don't presure him not to use medicine or not to eat meat because I don't. I should not have to subject myself to a substance

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004

Wait, this is not right.

I can't support you if you are not even going to see the doctor to find out if you are allergic to this medicine.

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