My husband is emotionless
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My husband is emotionless
| Wed, 03-10-2004 - 5:03pm |
Hi,
My Dh and I have been married for two years in June and together for 3 years this April. I have always had issues with this with him but lately it is really bugging me. Even when I know something is wrong with him because its obvious by his actions and not talking, he refuses to talk about anything and insists hes not mad. I have even gottent o the point where I have asked him if he even loves me anymore. I was a stay at home mom up until 4 days ago I got a part time job because I had to due to our finances. What can I say to him without getting him defensive or mad at me.( which is a hard thing to do I have to say)Please help.
Leah
My Dh and I have been married for two years in June and together for 3 years this April. I have always had issues with this with him but lately it is really bugging me. Even when I know something is wrong with him because its obvious by his actions and not talking, he refuses to talk about anything and insists hes not mad. I have even gottent o the point where I have asked him if he even loves me anymore. I was a stay at home mom up until 4 days ago I got a part time job because I had to due to our finances. What can I say to him without getting him defensive or mad at me.( which is a hard thing to do I have to say)Please help.
Leah

Praise him, thank him for being him, letting you stay home all those years. Don't say or ask anything else. Just give the compliment with a hug or kiss, every day. See if he doesn't open up and feel like talking if he feels appreciated. If that doesn't work, take him for a walk and make all your statement from your point of view - use I feel, I think, etc. Stay away from the word - YOU do / don't do, etc.
Carrie
Hi, i cannot really give you advice, but to let you know that you're not the only one, my BF is just like that. I have a problem with him b/c he never acts like he's doing something wrong. He never talks about what he is thinking, feeling, wants, needs, or anything deep. It's doesn't even have to be a "deep thought" so-to-speak, but anything he hates when i try to talk to him, whether its about a problem, or anything, he gets defensive and critical of me!! Well, i'm sorry I cannot help you, but some what of a 'support group'... Be carefule and things like this take time, that's all i can say b/c that's the only advice i've been giving myself from another source. Take care and just be honest.
Sincerely,
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