My husband has a fetish problem
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My husband has a fetish problem
| Fri, 05-21-2004 - 6:04pm |
I discovered after we were married that my husband had a fetish for leather and pvc clothing. I found out that he has a collection of pictures he looks at. Sometimes he's looking at his pictures around 3 times a week. After I found out about it, I confronted him. I tried to be supportive. We bought some clothes that I could wear and model for him when he's feeling in the mood. I even surprised him with some photos of myself wearing these clothes. I know this is bad, but every so often I check to see if he's been looking at his pictures. Everytime I feel a little hurt and jealous of these photos. He hasn't even looked at the album I did for him once. The only time he looked at them was when I showed it to him. I was hoping that he would seek me out more often when he was feeling in the mood for these pictures. In a way I feel as if he's cheating on me, when he's looking at these other women. I have talked to him about three times. Each time, I reveal the jealousy I feel when I know he's looking at the pictures. I am trying to be supportive, but I don't know how far to go. I buy new outfits for him every so often, to try and spice things up. I am at a giving up point. I just feel that no matter how hard I try, he's still going to feel that he needs his pictures. What should I do?

Would you be uncomfortable if he watched porn or checked out Playboy magazine? It is practically the same thing. However, I understand that it hurts your feelings. But, is he cheating on you, or does he just have a fetish? In my opinion, you should consider if his fetish is affecting your sex life with him. If so, then, possibly talk to him about it. Communication is key here, and understanding on both sides is even more important.
-amy- "CL-fiesty"