My husband said a bunch of hurtful things about my weight -- what should I do?
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|Mon, 02-25-2013 - 12:17pm|
I went to a Zumba class this weekend for the first time. When I got home, I told him that it was hard, but I would go again, because it was a good workout. Then, he said, "good, you should." I then said "what does that mean"? He said, "well, you must be noticing how you gained a lot of weight in the past three months and your clothes aren't fitting well." I said, "I know I have been gaining weight recently, but I don't appreciate you pointing it out like that," pointing out that I have been trying to eat healthy and I got injured after I started running again. He said he didn't believe I was working out enough or watching what I ate, and then said, "When should I point it out -- when you can't fit through the door anymore?" BTW, our 6-year-old daughter was in the room at the time, and she thought that was funny and started laughing, but my husband insisted she didn't know what she was laughing about. I then just walked away and took a shower. He came and apologized, saying he now remembered that I was sick and that I haven't been able to work out lately. I just said, "ok." But I was still mad and hurt. I was still upset the next day, and he chastized me for holding a grudge. I said that even though he apologized, it still doesn't take back the fact that he said it. He then said I am too sensitive and need to get over it because he apologized. He then said, "I just don't think you care what you look like." I then used some very choice words on him and left for the rest of the day. He is trying to be nice to me, but I am just tired of this emotional abuse (this is just one of so many instances). We have been married for over 10 years, have one child and I have been a size 12 for most of those years -- still am. What should I do?