My husbands emotional infidelity online

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My husbands emotional infidelity online
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Sat, 04-12-2008 - 5:30am

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:14am
Everyone,

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Thu, 04-17-2008 - 8:31am

Wendy:


I am so sorry for what you are going through.


I need to get to the point - I sell insurance for a living and I know how easy it is to change a beneficiary to a life insurance policy.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 11:29am

This is a truly painful situation. First of all, I am very sorry about your illness. Certainly what you need now is a great deal of support and caring. Anything that causes you added stress or anguish should be avoided like the plague.


It sounds to me as though your husband is non-functional, a disturbed individual. Are you working? Is everything on your shoulders? Not only is this not fair, but how long can it go on? It sounds as though truly he is behaving as a child, cannot accept responsibility or face reality and is simply entering fantasy land with these women. His behavior has nothing at all to do with you. It's due to his own immaturity, his addictions and unwillingness to grow up.


Do you have a support system? Are family and friends around? You need all the support you can get now. I strongly urge you to see a therapist, a well trained counsellor who can help you sort out this difficult situation and make choices which will be as healthy as possible for you during this period of your life. And also for your children. You need to set up a support system for them for the future. It doesn't sound as though your husband can handle anything. Don't blame yourself for it, but you be the adult now, and face reality and set up a life style that will benefit you and your children.


Best wishes,

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