I've been married 2 years
Your husband sounds like a real jerk!
I agree with fissatore. I'm sorry. I think she's right that you could look at this situation as: "I jumped into this marriage too quickly but this is not the man for me"
Your life partner should be a person who makes you feel good about yourself. I think if you spend any longer with someone who is so damaging emotionally, your self-esteem may be irreparably ruined. This has nothing to do with your weight - Insofar as weight loss will not cure this problem.
I wouldn't tell someone to just go right out & get divorced (unless there is abuse going on) util they at least try counseling.
Thank you all for the advice!
IMO, your husband is being very honest and open . Attraction changes. Its seems you dont want to lose weight. Dont you worry about your health and looking good ? If you are not taking care of you , why would someone else ,especially your husband .Its not his job to make you feel great if you are fat.You need to work on yourself. Join a gym, get a personal trainer, get an eating plan.
Instead of going to counsellor, go to gym and burn that fat , for yourself , not him.Its your body , take care of it.
Also very good advice, thank you!!
You are doing alot of work on yourself and losing weight and going to the gym and all. that is amazing.. your husband is not being very supportive of you and that is wrong?? You marry a partner who is supposed to love you and cherish you no matter what.
He almost comes across a little bullyish.. Were you bullied in your life and you feel you just married one of those bullies? sorry but that is how your post is coming across to me.
He cant find a job and blames stuff on you. Once again its his problem.
There are many books and doctors who say that a man does not really care what his wife weighs or what she looks like. there was a Dr.Oz episode where the women were overweight and didnt want to have sex.. The husbands wanted sex so bad and they didnt care what the wife looked like. Maybe
What you are saying would make sense if she was thinner then gained weight after they got married, but she was heavier before, and now she's losing weight, he says he's not attracted cause she's too fat--he should be more attracted now since she weighs less, if that is the real reason.
Your DH is really not being very nice to you.