my last attempt...maybe

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my last attempt...maybe
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Sun, 10-07-2007 - 10:37pm

Hi again


A while back I posted a message titled "the hardest desicion" and received many messages of support and advice. I thank each and everyone of you who responded. I wish I had something new to tell you but I am as conflicted and sad as I was 2 weeks ago, but on the positive side, I see the light at the end of the tunnel. At least I

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 10-08-2007 - 12:03pm

Welcome back marta_joe,


Your post is full of reasons why you shouldn't try and work things out.


This include:


1. He said he is leaning towards starting fresh with the OH


2. He said it will be difficult to try to workout our issues and that he's not very hopeful and our future together seems bleak


3. he has shared with me plans that he's made with OW on how to deal with step family issues and plans about having children together


If he had come back to you and said that he loved you and realized that he made a mistake and wants another chance, than I would say go for it. But he hasn't done that at all. As hard as it is, I think you know what you should do.


If you do decide to try and work it out, insist on going to marriage counseling together.


Best of luck to you.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Mon, 10-08-2007 - 12:52pm
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 10-08-2007 - 12:55pm

Hi marta_joe,


I gotta say, I agree with Coltara..... especially this part


If he had come back to you and said that he loved you and realized that he made a mistake and wants another chance, than I would say go for it. But he hasn't done that at all. As hard as it is, I think you know what you should do.


He has given you all the reasons why it will fail, but he left out the most important reason of all - HIS heart is with the other woman, period.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Mon, 10-08-2007 - 1:49pm

'He says he's conflicted because I am not happy and I have been unable to move