My new guy
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My new guy
| Wed, 02-18-2004 - 9:42pm |
I have recently started seeing this guy that I met off the internet. We have know eachother for about a month and a half, and he has already told his family I was his girlfriend, and he has already met most of mine. We have discussed the topic of a relationship, and I have asked him if we were to be exclusive, and he said yes. Well, we have spent a lot of time together on the weekends, but he lives about 40 miles away and we are not able to see eachother during the week. Does that leave him open to temptation? Today, this is why I am writting, he told me he made a new friend, and HER name is Mel. She is available, and lives near by him. I asked him if he was interested in her, and he said no, and then I asked him if he would be if we were not together, and he said, with hesitation, "probably not". I am very uncomforatable with some of the stuff he tells me. He has no problem telling me about his ex girfriends, and he has even mentioned sexuall positions that they have done, WHILE WE WERE HAVING SEX!!! I do not know how to approach him on this subject, of me being incomforatable with what he says to me about his past, without sounding jealous or afraid of him hurting me. I know that I have not known him for a very long time, but I care a lot about him, more than I have cared about guys that I have dated for 6 months or more. I am afraid to lose him, and I know I do not know him well enough to determine if he will hurt me or do something behind my back. If you have any advice, and actually read this, please help me find ways to discuss the communications problems with "My New Guy". THANKS A BUNCH!

This one is EASY.
You've gotten involved with a "player"----a man who loves to flirt on the net, but has very little intention to make a serious relationship commitment with ANYBODY...including YOU.
Besides..."exclusivity" in a long-distance relationship is tough to pull off.
DUMP HIM! You CAN do better than this turkey...if you want to.
Pianoguy
I disagree that you can't have exclusivity in a long-distance relationship.