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My Problem or His?
| Fri, 06-18-2004 - 12:53pm |
My boyfriend and I were watching American Pie The Wedding..and there was this scene in there with a bachelor party. The girls were beautiful but you could tell they had fake boobs..(personally, I don't care) but my boyfriend was getting turned on by them so I teased him and said "You're getting turned on by silocone? You hate fake boobs!" So he replied, "there's more than fake boobs there!" I moved over to my side of the bed (I was a bit annoyed) and started watching the movie again. He got mad at me and said "you make me feel like a 60 year old perverted man!! Excuse me if I find someone else, other that YOU attractive and your NOT on your pedestal for once!" He also went on to say that I made him feel like he was in a typical "american" marriage. He thinks most men in this country are on a leash and once you get married then their wives forbid them from sneaking a peek at another woman. He watches porn and I leave him alone about it even though it hurts my feelings. I feel like crap. My self esteem is shot right now because I haven't been able to find a job in 10 months. I feel like he's hitting something deeper in me when he acts like this about other women. I notice him checking girls out and then he tells me how beautiful I am. I just don't get it.
*Clarissa*

I think that its normal and human to recognize an attractive member of the opposite sex. The key is to doing so in a tasteful, respectable manner. If you feel that he crosses the lines occationally, then its your place to tell him. If he doesnt back off, then this isnt just about his rude wandering eye, its about him lacking respect for your feelins, and thats a different ball game.
Good luck,