My Supervisor

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Registered: 04-29-2008
My Supervisor
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Tue, 04-29-2008 - 12:38pm
I've been working for my 30 year old supervisor for a year. I'm 22. In October she and I started hanging out together in small groups about once

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: iceman314
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 12:49pm

Welcome to the board iceman314,


My guess is someone noticed there was something going on between the two of you and someone pointed out that 'sexual harassment' could come into play - not that you would claim it, but someone else could.

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Registered: 10-03-2007
In reply to: iceman314
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 1:01pm
I could be wrong but i guess she has developed feelings for you and doesnt know what to do with them.And maybe fears that you may not be feeling the same way as she is,so is distancing herself.I guess i am right.
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Registered: 04-29-2008
In reply to: iceman314
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 4:10pm

She certainly knows exactly what I feel for her. I've made sure she is aware. I assure you that's she's not afraid of the sexual harrassment thing because of little details that, if I typed them, would be way too long for anyone to read. Assuming that isn't the case, why else would she pull away like that.


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: iceman314
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 4:14pm
You'd have to ask her why she's pulling away.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2007
In reply to: iceman314
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 4:31pm

" why else would she pull away like that." not very sure here but could be that she for some reason doesnt want to accept her/your feelings?? You know better why would she want to deny feelings for you or even yours for her.It actually does no good to anyone.Just pinning for one another.

" One other note, for some reason, in the past week or so, she's been a little sweeter towards me than recently. Might she be coming back around?"

Could be.Contradictory to above, she may be accepting the feelings :) but is being careful to not get hurt. Do you know about her past R? Once hurt, twice shy could be applicable.

Try to get her talk out about it.it will be difficult but you have to either make it or break it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
In reply to: iceman314
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 4:37pm
It sounds like your supervisor is playing head games with you and is commiting sexual harassment.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2007
In reply to: iceman314
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 6:28pm

There might not be a policy about employee/co workers dating but I find it hard to believe that they would not frown on a supervisor and an employee. That could get ugly very fast not only for one/both of you, but also for the company.

It could be that other co workers have notice and said something, she treats you different, she tells you things about work that really is not any of your business, that can get her fired in a heartbeat (doesn't sound like much of a supervisor)and if she is not careful it could mean her job or yours or both, she could be seeing someone else, she could be scared, she could realize how this could get out of hand... No one knows what she is thinking except for her, you need to talk to her, if she won't talk to you or explain things then you need to drop it and her.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2008
In reply to: iceman314
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 6:15am

Perhaps she thinks you are not really into her.

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Registered: 04-25-2008
In reply to: iceman314
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 10:44am

its very rare these days that two consenting adults keep control and dont have sex till they are emotionally bonded and are sure about there feelings.It is possible that they both want to wait for it to happen.

OP, i agree that even though you believe you have by your little ways expressed yourself, she may still doubt or not feel sure.Has she told you how she feels because just assuming leads to unwanted complications.Speak to her.

A quick note to all those who are going into supervisor/employee thing.We all try not to be specific about our situations to protect our/concerned persons identity.So, i am guess that this poster is doing the same.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: iceman314
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 12:05pm

Chances are, someone either noticed the inappropriate relationship between the two of you and either said something to her or her supervisor OR she simply realized the inappropriateness of this relationship on her own and decided to put a stop to it.

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