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| Tue, 04-29-2008 - 12:38pm |
I've been working for my 30 year old supervisor for a year. I'm 22. In October she and I started hanging out together in small groups about once

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Wow, ok, I have quite a bit to address here. 1.) No one has noticed that anything is going on an no one reported her. There's actually a girl at work she is friend's with and with the way she acts like she favor her, that is the only thing anyone would mention. Her behavior towards that person hasn't changed. 2.) I have made it pretty clear in the last few weeks what I think of her without actually saying "I like you, I want to go out with you and have a serious relationship". But she gets the point, believe me, she know I want more than this. 3.) I have asked her three times about the differences in our friendship between then and now, and she refuses to even acknowledge that there's anything different at all. She hasn't been hanging out with anyone else as often as she used to either, but still more than me, which is odd because when things were at their best, she didn't hang out with anyone nearly as often as with me. 4.) She hasn't been hurt badly
<<1.) No one has noticed that anything is going on an no one reported her. There's actually a girl at work she is friend's with and with the way she acts like she favor her, that is the only thing anyone would mention. Her behavior towards that person hasn't changed. >>
Just because you don't think that doesn't mean it didn't happen.
Wow, would you please elaborate on your point no.2
"I have made it pretty clear in the last few weeks what I think of her without actually saying "I like you, I want to go out with you and have a serious relationship". But she gets the point, believe me, she know I want more than this."
How do you do this without saying?? Seriously, i need tips. And you are even sure that she gets the point.How? A bit confusing or i am too naive.
She is not acknowledging her or your feelings, which too is mysterious to me.
Well, it's like this. Have you ever known that someone has feelings for you, but they hadn't asked you out yet? You know because of their behavior towards you. I compliment her all the time, offer my help with anything she needs, when she has personal problems that she tells me about (which now, she rarely does tell me) I always tell her that I'll be there for her anytime she needs someone.
When I was asking if she wanted to hang out all the time, I just wanted to spend time with her only. Now I don't ask her to hang out anymore. Everytime I ask she always texts back "Ok" and that's it. Then some excuse is made later on for her to get out of it. I guess she will ask me if she wants to spend time together.
" she rarely does tell me" .very clear and bad sign.
" I guess she will ask me if she wants to spend time together". She wont.if she didnt come when all was well why would she now.
She might just be being friendly and you misinterpreted her behavior and is just ignoring you as she is your senior and probably more smart. Thats why people emphazise on communication.Sending signals and assuming the other person is getting them right is a blunder.Its a very easy getaway actually.If you dont want to take it further for any reason, you can easily say ' i never said so', 'you are nuts, assuming things','when did i say' when you also know what you did with your actions but prove the other person crazy.
You are playing mind games, accept it or not.You will get trapped yourself.Hope she sees you through your games.I guess she has, thats why she is being polite and distancing.If i was her, you are lucky, because i am not her .
First of all, when all was well, she did ask me to spend time with her. We hung out 3 times a week when all was well. I think that her behavior qualified as more than "being friendly". If she's just trying to be professional now then she should probably just talk to me
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