At my Wits End

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Registered: 03-22-2008
At my Wits End
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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 3:42pm
OK HERE IS THE THING.MY HUSBAND OF 12 YEARS HAS PUT US IN A BIND AGAIN.BACK WHEN WE HAD OUR 2ND CHILD WE DECIDED I WOULD STAY HOME WITH THE KIDS AND TAKE CARE OF THE KIDS AND HOUSE.WELL HERE IT IS 5 KIDS TOTAL AND HE HAD HIS OWN BUSINESS FOR 9 OF THE YEARS.WELL BUSINESS WENT DOWN HILL AND HE GOT INVOLVED WITH SOME DRUGS.I TOLD HIM THAT HE NEEDED A REAL JOB CAUSE HIS UNCLE WAS FIXING TO BOOT HIM OUT OF THE SHOP HE WAS IN ANY WAY.WELL HE WENT TO WORK AND IN THE FIRST WEEK LAID OUT 2 TIMES AND WAS LATE ALOT.HE WORKED THERE A LITTLE OVER A YEAR.THEN HE GOT A CHANCE TO GET A REALLY GOOD PAYIN JOB.WELL HE TOOK IT AND 6 MONTHS LATER GOT LAID OFF,BUT HURT HIS WRIST ON THE JOB AND HAD SURGERY.WELL TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT HE DREW UNEMPLOYMENT FOR 6 MONTHS IT ENDED IN NOVEMBER.HIS MOTHER BOUGHT OUR KIDS CHRISTMAS CAUSE HE DIDNT MAKE ANY MONEY.WELL HE HAS BEEN PIDDELING ON THE SIDE FOR OVER 6 MONTHS AND WE ARE SO FAR BEHIND ON EVERYTHING.CELLPHONES GOT CUT OFF.CABLE GOT CUT OFF AND HE GOT INTO SOME LEGAL TROUBLE.THEN 2 WEEKS AFTER THE LEGAL THING I FIND OUT HE HAS BEEN HOOKED ON DR.PRESCIBED PAIN KILLERS FOR 4 YEARS.AND THEY WERE MAKING HIM SO MEAN.HE SWORE AFTER THE FIRST TIME HE WOULD NEVER DO THEM AGAIN.BUT HE NEVER QUIT TO BEGIN WITH.WELL HE WENT THROUGH WITHDRAWLS AND WENT TO HIS DR AND IS ON METHADONE TO WEAN HIMSELF OFF,WELL HE IS STILL AN A--H--.AND STILL DOESNT MAKE TIME FOR THE KIDS AND ME AND STILL HARDLEY MAKES A DIME.I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.HE SAYS HE LOVES ME AND THE KIDS BUT IT DOESNT SEEM LIKE IT TO ME.IF I HAVE TO GET A JOB MYSELF,THEN WHAT DO I NEED HIM FOR.HE YELLS AT ME ALOT AND THE KIDS TOO.I HAVE NOONE TO TALK TO BECAUSE HIS MOM JUST SEEMS TO THINK WE SHOULD BE TOGETHER NO MATER WHAT,BUT SHE IS BEGINNING TO SEE WHAT I DO I THINK.ANY ADVICE?YES I DO LOVE HIM SOME BUT IT GETS LESS AND LESS THE FARTHER BEHIND ON LIFE WE GET.
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Registered: 12-28-2007
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 9:11pm

You have to get a job and he has to get help for his problems.


He is yelling all the time because he knows he is scr*wing up and he isn't liking himself very much right now either.


He knows he has let you down, let himself down and now....he is hooked on drugs.


We take stuff out on the ones closest to us...you guys are a target right now and it isn't going to get better if you don't get out and work.


You are going to resent that too!

Missy