My x is engaged & we're having sex
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My x is engaged & we're having sex
| Sun, 05-20-2007 - 12:42pm |
I dated my x for 2months,we broke up b/c of my x-best friend.They have been together for 4yrs now & he proposed to her during their 2nd yr.9 months ago we started talking & 1night he just grabbed me kissed me we didnt have sex that night but that followed a few days later.At the time i was in a 3yr relationship.My exact words to him that night were"you know your cheating right?"& his answer"you are 2."I told him I didnt want him to marry her & i want to be with him.I broke off my 3yr relationship b/c i didnt want to live with the fact that i would be cheating on my boyf,my relationship also had its problems and although i love the guy the feelings i have for my x far surpass.My friends have told me he's not gonna leave her & im being used. When i finally questioned this 6months into our affair he answered that he wanted something fun,like no strings attached but that its different with me.From the 1st night we started i wanted to tell him I loved him but still continue to hold off telling him so b/c i dont want him to say we cant do this anymore but at the same time feel like he wants to say it too.What can i do to make him leave her?

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Welcome to the board psbebe,
I think one of these other boards might work better for you:
My Affair Support
Ending an Affair Support
"What can i do to make him leave her?"
Tell her that he's been cheating with you for almost a year. Maybe she will have the sense to kick his worthless self to the curb, and you might get to have a lying, cheating jerk for your very own.
You can't make him leave her. If he wanted too, he would have done so by now. I agree with the poster that said you could tell her and than more than likely she would leave him. What makes you think that he wouldn't cheat on you?
You deserve better than a relationship like this.
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He's just not that into you.
"he proposed to her"
He proposed to her, not you.
"When i finally questioned this 6months into our affair he answered that he wanted something fun,like no strings attached but that its different with me."
He wants something different with you, and that something different is definitely not treating you with the respect you deserve, such as with a relationship known to the public, not something hidden because of shame.
He's just not into you enough to leave his fiancee. Why would you want to be with a guy who keeps you on the side, and who doesn't like you as much as you like him?
You can't do anything to make him leave her. A person has to choose on their own who they want to be with. When you get involved with someone who's with someone else this always creates complications and difficulties, for all concerned. He is now involved with two women, and basically it's unfair to all concerned.
Perhaps the best thing to do would be to stop the relationship until he makes a decision. Then you'll know where you stand. You'll also feel better about yourself in the long run.
Best wishes,
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