my young boyfriend drives me insane!!

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Registered: 03-26-2004
my young boyfriend drives me insane!!
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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 6:43pm
calling all ladies...can you feel me on this?...my bf is 23(i'm 32)and we're constantly clashing because he feels like he needs to correct on me on every little thing that i do from sun up to sun down thinking that he's helping me. it really gets on my nerves...i mean i did move out of the nest egg when i was 19! he's never really said anything positive just shoulda woulda coulda (yawn) of course i'm the type of person to overlook little flaws in people because we're what? all together now HUMAN!!! i mean i'm im 32 for heavens sake! i dont need a daddy... it is really bad ladies... heres an example...we go over to a friend of his house.(so i can watch him play video games..yawn!) now, not only did i have to show them how to play the dadgum game (which is besides the point)so, theyre boxing on the playstation...bf wins a round...i give him alittle pat on the back...you know to congratulate...when we leave hes raggin on me saying "youre no good for my ego...you dont do this you dont do that (blah blah blah) sigh!...ladies i'm tired of being with someone who doesn't appreciate me...doesn't have a job...doesn't contribute to the household....any advise...holla at your girl...or email me...peace
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Registered: 03-03-2004
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 8:43pm
It sounds like you two just don't have a lot in common. It really doesn't sound like either of you appreciates the other. You do seem to know a lot more than him, which may be threatening to him. So he compensates for it by giving you advice all of the time. Then, every time he needs help from you and gets it, he's got to one-up you later or at least tell you it wasn't any help, etc.

I'm not a big fan of younger guys. I prefer men who are older than me, generally. Younger guys usually just aren't very mature, which may not be their faults at all. It's just the way it is. I suspect your bf is competing with you. You're not necessarily expecting it, and you react in what would be a rational, mature manner, but you're not dealing with a rational, mature partner. I guess my best advice would be to recognize him for what he is and make him feel like a MAN. Best wishes.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 9:02pm
Hey,

I have no problem with age difference but in your case I truly think it's causing the rift. Big time. You are older and seasoned with the ins and outs of life. He's newer at this and might be feeling threatened by your experience so he's trying to compensate by being that way to you. My suggestion is to find a boyfriend more suited for you. I'm thinking you might be the type of person better suited with an older man who can handle a woman like you and appreciate all you have to offer.

Jennifer

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