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| Sun, 07-22-2007 - 4:38am |
I met a guy 3 years ago. I didn't like him but he did (I also understood from my parents that they didn't like him much because he seemed immature when they first met him and he is not school oriented, which was a bigger reason to why I didn't want to start a relationship with him). He told his friends and my friends, which told me, that he likes me. Well this was going on for two years. Finally, I decided to give it a chance and get to know him more. Well, after that I told him that i liked him but didn't want a relationship because I was too busy with school(an excuse to avoid telling him that it's my family). He insisted on talking to each other, so we did and i broke his heart twice and left him due to my family's dislike to him. Throughout this time my feelings were not very strong toward him.
A month after I left him, I realized that I was in love with him and wanted him back. So i asked him to be my boyfriend but I didn't want my family to know. Well, he said yes after two weeks of thinking. We were boyfriend/girlfriend for two months and a half (with a lot of fights because of my family). He couldn't handle the fact that my parents did not know we were together, so he broke up with me and got a girlfriend in order to forget about me. However, he couldn't and he used to call me even while he had a girlfriend and told me that he loved me. I asked him to not contact me as long as he had a girlfriend, because that is unfair to her, him, and myself. While we were broken up I tried asking my parents if it was alright if I dated him and all I got was a big NO.
Now, he broke up with his girlfriend and he called me telling me about the break up and the fact that he went back to school to satisfy my family. He also wants us to be serious and wants me to meet his mother; and of course my parents would have to know this time.
I do not know what to do. I don't want to say yes to him because i don't want him to feel like he can have me or break up with me whenever he wants and I will always be available for him. Another thing is my family is still going to say no because they are stubborn. I love him so much and I am willing to go out with him even if my family says no but I would rather be with him and have my family's approval.
What should I do?

I am 20 and he is 21. I already have my B.S. and have three years to finish dental school. His father has passed away so he has to work most of the time to support his family. Now that he's back in school, it's going to take him about 3/3.5 years to get his B.S. He has never been to jail.
My family is very school-oriented and he doesn't have a degree. Plus my family met him at a big dinner-dance during Christmas and he came with his friends and got drunk and acted immature which made them not like him.
Hope this clarifies things!
The two of you are both really young. Now it does make sense that your family does not like him. He should go to school for himself not for your family. If this is a guy you can see yourself with 10 years from now then go for it. However, you are so young and you might meet someone who is more like you. What I mean by that is someone who has the same goals as you do. What happens if your BF doesn't finish college?
He went out and met other girls and even started dating. Maybe you should let yourself date other people too. It is only fair for you to take care of yourself.