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| Wed, 10-08-2008 - 12:02pm |
I need some advice... My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. He just recently started this asphalt job in Flint, Michigan. But we live together in Royal Oak, Michigan. He said that he needed the job for extra money (because we have a baby on the way) and other bills. But before he left he told me that he was only going to work for 2 weeks or maybe at the most 3 weeks. He came to visit me this past weekend and he told me that the job he has is steady pay and that it's not bad. But he only gets paid $80 a day and most days he doesn't work because of the weather. What bothers me is that he stays in a motel in flint working for them and the workers that he's with smokes, so he's starting to smoke alot.
Last week he told me that if a job calls him, he was going to get on the first bus back to Royal Oak, to start.
Over 10 jobs called him this past week, but he told them that he couldn't work. (He was going to be paid more money with the job)! And he turned them down. To me it seems he doesn't want a good job. I barely get to see him he comes at midnight on a friday night. Then he leaves Sunday morning. We don't get to spend time together. He called me selfish, but I want what's best for him, just like he wants for me. Working 10 hours a day and getting paid $80 I don't think it's worth it, especially if jobs other jobs called him to start immediately!!!!
He says that he missings me, and he wishes that he was here with me, but he had the opportunity when jobs called him. I asked him why did he turn down the jobs, he said I don't know why. The job that he's doing is not steady because once it snows they can't work unless they leave the state, he said that he wasn't going to leave with them. I just don't know why he's wasting his time when it's only a few weeks until it probably snows...????

Welcome to the board melia,
I don't blame you for being upset about this job. It doesn't seem to really be benefiting either one of you. If you don't get to hardly see each other and he isn't making much money especially if he has been offered other jobs closer to home that pay more. It seems like there is more going on then what he is saying if you ask me.
Have you asked him where he plans to work once the baby is born?
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