Need advice about getting back together

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Need advice about getting back together
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Mon, 04-16-2007 - 8:49pm

I am looking for some serious advice. About 7+ months ago my LDR b/f had a one night stand which i did not learn about for a few months. We have been broken up about 5 mos now but working thru things. He wants me back and has realy shown a full effort to prove he is regretful, and this was an immaturity mistake. I have come a long way, but of course trust is a major issue for me. I would really like to trust him again and he seems sincere in all of his efforts to win me back. Some background: we were extremely close, talked about a life together, never had any major issues, arguments or fighting. This was a whammy to me.... a night of drinking and mistakes that changed everything. But I am willing to let him prove himself, and he is. The issue now is ME and moving on.

Does anyone have ANY advice in this situation. We will not be LDR for the summer, we live in the same town (we are LDR in college) so we have soem time (10 weeks) to work on things. I know i need to move forward, I am willing to try to regain our relationship but I'm not sure how I should best do this- I feel like day to day, not much changes. I know i cant speed this up but i also want to get things back to normal as much as i can- if possible.

If there are any suggestions on exactly what we should be working on, doing, things I should try- i would appreciate it!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 04-16-2007 - 9:41pm

Hi lovergrl18,


Most couples need professional help to overcome betrayal and rebuild trust.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 2:52pm

lovergrl18,


My thinking is that when you are living in the same town for 10 weeks this summer that you will not have much a problem trusting him because you will be in the same town and will be able to see each other a lot more often. I think most of your trust issues are going to occur when you are