Need advice about my ex

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Need advice about my ex
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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 3:43pm
I am a 23 year old who currently still lives with my ex-boyfriend. We broke up 3 weeks ago, but still see each other every day. I am moving out in a week due to this stressful situation. I am just trying to figure out if we will ever get back together. I want him back desperately and he is not necessarily against the idea but I don't think he wants to right now. Anyway, we are still sexually intimate and he is always wanting to know who I have been hanging out with and if I have been intimate with anyone else. I haven't due to my love for him, and he claims he hasn't either. Him and I have a special bond I just can't shake. He's my lover, my boyfriend, and one of my best friends.I feel a strong feeling that he wants to get back together, but how long do I have to wait or should I wait to get him back? If we don't get back together, whats the best way to get over him when I love and miss him so much??
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 4:20pm
Some of this will be hard to hear.... stop sleeping with him... he's having his cake and eating it too. It means more to you than it does to him. He doesn't have to commit because you will still sleep with him without the commitment.

What's the reason for moving out? Why not work it out together?

As far as getting over someone if there is no chance of getting back together.... it takes time to grieve. To grieve for what might have been, for what could have been, for what you hoped would have been. Journal writing can help the process.

My best to you.


Carrie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 10:21pm
I totally agree - stop sleeping with him. It's tough after a breakup, but if you even just make the motions that your life is going on without him, it will go on without him and eventually you won't just be going through the motions you really will be moving your life on.
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Registered: 07-16-2004
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 2:24am
If you guys have broken up,it's time for you to move on.....You want to hang on to him and whatever it is that you had with him ,in the hope that maybe you can have a future with him and things will get back to where they were before the break up...do u think something like that wud happen??If you can't reconcile the differences,it's time for you to move out and start afresh....Wish you all the best!!