Need Advice from any ONE!

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Need Advice from any ONE!
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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 2:03am
Hi every one I would like advice from any one that can help me.........Me and my boyfriend been together for a year and a month.Most of the time we argue for little thing that arent even important.Theres no day that we don't argue.I think we argue 3 to 4 days of the week even on the phone.Its been like that since we started going out.We try to talk about our arguments but we have a hard time in expressing our selves.Sometimes I feel like hes not happy with our relationship and i have asked him if he would like to take some time off but he says no that he still whants us to be together.He even says he would like to get marry with me but I dont know what to do any more because we always argue.Hes the only boyfriend I ever loved and I REALLY WHANT OUR RELATIONSHIP TO BE DIFFERENT AND NOT ARGUE THIS MUCH NO MORE.....Any one that has advive for me let me know what u think ......I would really apriciated it.
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Registered: 09-01-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 10:30am
Well it sounds like to me that the love is there the communication isnt. I dont think it is a reason to end your relationship, you need to figure out a better way to communicate with each other. Maybe if you the 2 of you sit down and you explain to him about your concerns and express to him that you just want things to be better for the both of you mayve you can come to a better understanding of each other. If not take a few days apart to reevaluate your situation and find out if the two of you are compatible. I hope this helps!!!!!!!!!! Good luck!
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Registered: 10-05-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 1:15pm
Hi again!

Well we have tried to talk about what is the things that boder him about me but he wont tell me. I told him that if he tells me mayb some things can get better. And also I have a HARD time in EXPRESSING my feelings to him.And thats part of my fault 2 but I just feel like sometimes he does not understand me........We see each other once a week because I go to skool but we talk on the phone every single day could that be a problem 2 that we talk every day?.............thanks 4 ur other advice
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 2:31pm
Get Dr Phil's book, Relationship Rescue he has a myths and misconceptions about communicating section.

From an Amazon Review of the book:

Dr. Phil McGraw sets the record straight on the most popular myths about what a good relationship is supposed to be, such as:

Myth #1: A great relationship depends on a great meeting of the minds

Myth #6: A great relationship lets you vent all your feelings


Carrie