Need advice on boyfriend lyin about ex's
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Need advice on boyfriend lyin about ex's
| Wed, 06-02-2004 - 3:36am |
I've been with my b/f for over a year now, and last month I found out he lied to me the whole time we've been together about talking to his ex's. The thing is though, he went out of his way to make sure I didnt know he did. He told me the reason why he did it was because he didnt want me talking to mine due to afraid of losing me to them. At times, one of his ex's would call him daily while I was with him, tho he'd never answer it when I was around. I thought it was strange, but he told me she's just crazy & that he didn't know why she was calling. I know your supposed to have trust in the relationship, and he hadn't done anything at the time to lose my trust, so I trusted him. I did answer one time that she called about 6 months ago & She was VERY rude and VERY mean to me, I told him what happened, but he still stayed friends with her behind my back until now. He's the one who ended up telling me about talking to them, but that comes with a reason. I discovered he had been talkin to my 'good' friend ALOT & I confronted him about it. I knew they talked sometimes, I concidered us all friends, it didnt bother me. But they talked daily- even nightly. ALL THE TIME. Actually she turned out to be more of his friend then mine because her purpose was to ask me things & report ALL of it back to him, including lying about me to him, etc. -long story- I think he called her more then he called me. She obvously didn't tell me about just how much she was talking to my boyfriend. He said they just talked about me- & admits it was wrong to believe all she said without talking to me about it 1st. He talked to his 2 ex's a few times a week. Theres more to the story, involving the other ex tellin me he called her a few times, wanting to 'hook up' but it didn't happen. I dont know her well, thats the 1st time ever talking to her actually, so I dont know how true her word is.. I need advise, please. Im so tired of feeling how I do. I feel so betrayed, lied to, foolish, and just the lack of his respect for me & my feelings. He shows me his cell phone bills now. He no longer talks to any of them, he admited he was wrong & that he shouldn't have done it. I want to believe him. I love him, but I've been lied to so much, i'm still so hurt. I cant help but think something may happen or be going on. He doesnt understand why I still feel this way. Please give your input, it will be greatly appreciated.

This man's behavior has been terrible - filled with lies and deceit, even with your so-called good friend.
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