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| Thu, 12-13-2007 - 1:09pm |
Ok.. I'm no stranger to this board.. That's for sure.. ha,ha.. But I'm having a little crisis..
If you've read my past posts, I'm back with my ex-boyfriend from 6 years ago.. Everything has been great with us.. Talking about getting married, kids, etc.. The whole shebang!
Well this past week we both have been home. I hurt my hand, and he had surgery.. So I was home the beginning part of the week taking care of him.. Besides the pain, he was in a great mood.. Loving.. and attentive..
All of a sudden this morning he came into the bathroom saw my makeup bag in the sink, as I was getting ready for work.. Got all mad and was like " Loading on the makeup Huh?" I just brushed it off and said "please don't give me crap about it.. ". I know that he hates makeup.. I recently learned this.. He is a very simple person.. Doesn't think that I need makeup, as I am "naturally beautiful" i don't share that same view, as I have worn makeup for years.. Now don't get me wrong. I'm not one of those girls that cake on the makeup everyday.. Light makeup is what I wear.. Nothing fancy.. I think that he takes it as me trying to impress other people.. Make myself look better for everyone else.. And that's not the case. I work in customer service, and I need to look professional.
He left the apartment, without even a goodbye.. Then called me and explained himself.. He basically said that he hates Makeup and perfume, and that the only person that I need to impress is him, not everyone else.. And said that he probably won't come home tonight as he has to think about things..And to not be surprised if his stuff is gone when I get home.. I spoke to him for a while on the phone and got him to agree to come home and talk to me.. Talk about everything.. I don't want our relationship to be thrown out the window over makeup.. Seems very silly.
HE has said before that he is very insecure.. He has nothing to be insecure about. He's very handsome!! I know that he's been cheated on before, so it might stem from that.. But I've never done anything to him or said anything to have him think otherwise.. I want to be with this man forever!! I have no quams about it.. I love him, and have for the last 6 years..
Please.. Someone give me some advice.. I need to know how to approach this when we talk tonight.. Right now I have no idea what to say to him... PLEASE HELP!!!!!

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My sister married a man who insisted that she not wear makeup, or perfume because she "didn't need to impress anyone but him, and she was naturally beautiful in his eyes".
I appreciate all responses to this post :) All of your advice is greatly appreciated!
Last night when I got home.. Not much was said.. He was sleeping, so I kind of mulled around the apartment for a while.. Waiting for him to wake up.. We didn't end up talking until later, and he just said "It's something that I don't like, it's like your covering yourself up.. Makeup is fake, and you don't need it.. That's just how I feel, and I'm going to have to deal with it because I want to be in this relationship." Not quite the answer that I was looking for but it will do..
It's like he thinks that I'm putting on this show for other people.. By putting on makeup and checking in the mirror before going anywhere.. Yes, I am vain.. Unfortunately.. I'm working on it.. :) I'm hopeful that he will just come to his senses and realize that he's being silly about the whole thing.. I know that I don't need makeup.. But it makes me feel good about myself.. I told him that also.. That I don't see me like he does.. Just like he doesn't see himself as I see him.
Hi
It seems your partner is acting like a child.
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