Need Advice Please

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Registered: 02-01-2004
Need Advice Please
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Sun, 02-01-2004 - 4:35pm
Me and my ex boyfriend of 8 yrs, broke up in 2000. In 2001 he started a relationship with someone else (I didn't find out about it until 2 yrs later)but he was also telling me that he loves me and wanted me back, well in 2002 I got fed up and I started a relationship with this guy and my ex was mad as I don't know what, he kept telling that he wanted me back and that I shouldn't get involved with this man. The next year I find out about him and girlfriend. The whole time I was with him he treated me like I was a Friend and not his girl, he got with her and treated her like I was suppose to be treated and all he can say is that he doesn't really want to be with her that he wants to be with me and his family, that he wants to marry me and that he will never treat me that way again. I don't know whether or not to believe him or trust him also I don't know what to do about the relationship that I am currently in. I know that I still have feeling for my ex I never really stop loving him but I don't know what to do someone help PLEASE.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
In reply to: kels26
Sun, 02-01-2004 - 5:24pm
He treated you like a friend when you dated and lied to you, right? He also lied to his girlfriend. Why do you think that he will treat you better now? How has he changed and how can you trust him after he has done these things and proven to you that he doesn't treat women well?

I also think it is strange that he is talking about marriage when you two aren't even dating.

If you are unhappy in your current relationship then tackle the issues and talk to your boyfriend about them.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: kels26
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 12:04pm

Well, after two years of him being with this other girl, you must wonder how many other girls he is telling the exact same story to0 and how many times he did the exact same thing behind YOUR back when you were dating...this guy is disrespectful to the woman he has rightnow, let alone letting you beleive thiat he was single...I highly doubt things would be different if he was with you...