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| Sat, 01-10-2004 - 7:44pm |
HI ALL
I SHOULD START BY TELLING YOU ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY BOYFRIEND. WE HAVE KNOW EACH OTHER FOR 10 YEARS.I DO LOVE HIM ,AND I KNOW HE LOVES ME ,SEX HAS ALWAYS BEEN GOOD,BUT THE TRUST WAS'T ALWAYS THERE,ON BOTH SIDES.HE HAS CHEATED ON ME ,AND I DID FORGIVE HIM FOR THAT.
HE LEFT ME IN 2002 OCTOBER.
MOVE BACK HOME WITH HIS MOM.
TOLD ME HE DIDN'T LIKE THE WAY I TREATED HIS SON,WHICH I KNOW WASN'T TRUE ,I NEVER DID ANYTHING TO HIS SON ,WHO WAS 12 AT THE TIME. ITS BEEN A WHILE SINCE I SEEN THEM ,BUT NEVER GOT OVER THE WAY HE LEFT.WE HAVE BEEN TALKING ON THE PHONE SINCE DEC.2002,HE WAS GOING TO COME SEE ME ,A LONG TIME AGO,BUT NEVER HAS THE MONEY ,OR SO HE SAYS..
I SHOULD START BY TELLING YOU ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY BOYFRIEND. WE HAVE KNOW EACH OTHER FOR 10 YEARS.I DO LOVE HIM ,AND I KNOW HE LOVES ME ,SEX HAS ALWAYS BEEN GOOD,BUT THE TRUST WAS'T ALWAYS THERE,ON BOTH SIDES.HE HAS CHEATED ON ME ,AND I DID FORGIVE HIM FOR THAT.
HE LEFT ME IN 2002 OCTOBER.
MOVE BACK HOME WITH HIS MOM.
TOLD ME HE DIDN'T LIKE THE WAY I TREATED HIS SON,WHICH I KNOW WASN'T TRUE ,I NEVER DID ANYTHING TO HIS SON ,WHO WAS 12 AT THE TIME. ITS BEEN A WHILE SINCE I SEEN THEM ,BUT NEVER GOT OVER THE WAY HE LEFT.WE HAVE BEEN TALKING ON THE PHONE SINCE DEC.2002,HE WAS GOING TO COME SEE ME ,A LONG TIME AGO,BUT NEVER HAS THE MONEY ,OR SO HE SAYS..
HE TOLD ME HE STILL LOVES ME ,AND HASN'T HAD SEX SINCE HE LEFT.NEITHER HAVE I .
MY DAUGHTER WHO IS NOW 18 ,DOESN'T FEEL GOOD ABOUT HIM ,BECAUSE OF THE WAY HE LEFT,BUT DOES KNOW I LOVE HIM.WELL HERE IS THE QUESTION.
HE ASK ME TO MARRY HIM .I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.DO I GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANGE?
I AM MILES AND MILES AWAY .I TOLD HIM MY LEASE IS UP IN JUNE ,HE SAYS THAT WILL GIVE HIM 6 MONTH TO DO WHAT HE NEEDS TO DO AS FAR AS MONEY..
DO I TRUST THIS?

job.. he works for his dad right now,and as far as he says gets paid well.
yes i do love him
i have been married before ,so the last thing i want to do is divorce again.
i just dont ,i guess i am scared he will run out on me again
Does this sound like the beginning of 'happily ever after'?
Is there a haLf way point here like seeing him for a while first before saying I do? Like deciding if you and he have changed for the better?